question to those who spin plates

FwoGiZ · 2018-09-19T14:32:52+00:00

I think you might be getting into details too early... Do you go and literally ask em straight up or are just blatant/obvious that all you want is bang em?

I personally make it clear from the beginning that I take things slow and any pressure, I bail out. Abundance mentality. This way they don't dare ask stupid shit like "what are we".

I have zero tolerance for a lot of stuff and they know so they behave... In the beginning cause they can control it. ;)

Elongate the sauce as much as you can until they're emotionally invested. Be fair, stern, honest.. earn their true respect, show em your value. I'm extremely ressourceful and quite successful guy so they're ok "sharing" me. Reality is I know damn well they're trying to change me lol... They'll even tell my friends and they shrug but I don't lie to them but I do omit a lot in the beginning. I guess making it so you not getting showered in questions in the beginning is an art?

I have a main chick, 2 sides and 2-3 more casual sides. They all know each others but that just makes things complicated and I'd recommend they don't but I'm the kinda guy thatt hrows big parties and like to make my friends laugh by inviting em all and watching the drama unravel lol. Cheers

wifeisbiorgay · 2018-09-19T15:07:19+00:00

I used Tinder and other apps on and off for two years. I stopped a couple weeks ago to LTR a girl. I fucked six women other than the LTR in the 10 days before I agreed to be exclusive with her. Knowing I can get easily have sex with reasonably attractive women makes dealing with the LTR a lot easier.

When I first started, I was not nearly as successful. The women I went out with weren't as attractive and I slept with a lower percentage of them. Here's what I think I improved over time.

1) Pics. My face is the same, but consciously looking for opportunities to get good Tinder pics over time will eventually net you some useful ones. Pics should illustrate either that you are attractive, stylish, have status, or are fun. For hookups, lean more towards pics that make you look most attractive.

2) Fitness. I was in pretty good shape all along. I started out at my least in-shape though. At first, I was cutting for a while. That didn't seem to help that much. Later I started bulking, which was very helpful. Girls would tell me I'm jacked and shower me with compliments when we actually hooked up. I'm not even that big, but most guys have never done a proper bulk and girls seem really into it.

3) Text game. I wasted too much time at first. Waited days to ask them out and tried to have really unique conversations with each one. Just a few funny/flirty texts and then set up a date. When you have confidence and abundance you will naturally operate this way.

4) Red flags. Learn to spot them. If she makes it seem like she'll flake, she will. This is another area where abundance is key. Don't expect them to flat out tell you they are going to be a waste of time or won't fuck. Be willing to move on to the next girl at the first sign of trouble. Getting this down will save you a lot of time and dramatically reduce the psychological burden.

5) Mindset. The psychological burden is the the thing that is most draining for Tinder hookup beginners. In particular, getting ghosted or flaked on by a girl that you spent too much time fantasizing about. Always treat flakes as a free night for you and opportunity to do what you love. Never put too much stock into what some random Tinderella thinks about you.

6) In-person. Obviously this is it's own entire area. The main thing for me, as usual, was abundance. They know you want to fuck so just play it cool. They can tell if you are a guy that fucks a lot of woman and that will turn them on. Don't try too hard.

Peter_B_Long · 2018-09-19T17:03:09+00:00

Unless you're top 5% in looks, you're not going to have much luck getting girls to come over alone to a guys house that she's never even met. You're going to get lots of flakes, ghosting, and LMR.

Also, why would you want a stranger to come over to your place? Dude what if she's psycho? What if she has a ton of red flags or she's catfishing? You really want to give your address out to strangers?

IMO you should always meet up with the girl for at least 15 minutes before you decide if you want to escalate to fuck. You need to screen her. Girls can be dangerous too and a psycho girl who has your information can make your life difficult.

My first Tinder date ever, I was talking to this 25 year old girl. We talked on the phone twice and everything seemed okay. No red flags yet, her voice sounded cute, and I was on a dry spell for a few months so I was honestly a bit desperate. I decided to just invite her over and I gave her my address. She agreed, but a few hours before we met up, she asked if we could grab food before as she hadn't ate all day. I agreed, since I was seeing her after the gym and wanted a post workout meal. We met at chipotle and right away she was being a bitch. I treated everything as if it were a shit test and just reacted amused with outcome independence. While we were eating, she started slamming her cup on the table demanding that I get her water. I was like, what? I told her no, that she was going to get her own water. I was a little weirded out. When she returns, she starts giving me the silent treatment. Ignoring me and looking away. I just laugh at her but I start getting really turned off and questioning if I should even still stick around or not. She then starts balling up napkins and throwing them at my face. I was like, "okayy, I'm out of here". I grabbed my stuff and left! As soon as I got to my car I blocked her number and never spoke to her again. I was honestly just glad that we met at a public place, and didn't even want to imagine what would've happened if I brought her over. Shit, she probably would've reported rape without anything even happening.

So yeah dude, screen your chicks. Meet them in public for the first date man. I'd hate for you to put yourself in a situation that you'll later regret!

vandaalen · 2018-09-19T14:50:17+00:00

How can you get into a relationship without fucking?

rad_dynamic · 2018-09-19T20:28:58+00:00

dates are needed to fuck the majority of women. dates get girls emotionally attached when they realise how masculine you are. once emotionally attached, they will come over for your dick whenever. not only that, dates allow you to see if a girl is worthy of YOUR dick.

unless she has very high initial interest or is looking for a quick fuck(and knows you have high SMV) it's impossible for a girl to come over without a date.

HurricaneHugues · 2018-09-20T00:36:21+00:00

Be attractive
Dont be unattractive

Your Tinder profile is most likely too serious and formal. My profile is very obviously sexual. Got a pic of me in my underwear showing off my quads and upper body, but my face isnt in the shot. Another is a black and white photo of me from the waist up, in a tshirt, under a light that only lights the left half of my body and the other side is completely dark. The light reflects great on my forearm's musculature and half my face (They can tell Im very good looking but can't see my whole face). Another photo is just a gym bathroom shirtless selfie (no face). My last photo is me in jeans and a tshirt posing similarly to Frank Zane under some dope lighting that really shows off my arms, and my quads are damn near bursting through my jeans. In short, my profile is complete "fuckboy" material. My bio says something about looking for Satan's daughter. Thats it. My openers are always really fucking wild. I turn it up to a 10 and I launch.

Your profile has to match the type of interaction you're looking for. If you have a bunch of suited up photos, photos of you doing things with a bunch of friends etc. It's gonna be hard for you to pull in straight to your house

MattyAnon · 2018-09-19T15:31:18+00:00

Getting a girl to agree to go on a date with me from Tinder isnt the issue

That's good.

Go for real life and enjoy a +2 SMV advantage.

it's getting them to be friends with benefits or just come over for a hook up is where i'm stuck.

Friends with benefits: don't fuck them first date, escalate physically, don't try and see them all the time, have other options, don't emotionally engage about anything at all, be sexy.

For those of you guys who have started from where i am and have gotten to spinning 6's and 7's, what were your experiences? I'm asking strictly from a Tinder point of view and not from clubs/bars.

I've not online dated. It's probably easier from Tinder because there is an expectation of casual.

Get girls.... see them..... then work on getting better ones..... what's the sticking point exactly ?

DVidojkovic · 2018-09-19T17:17:35+00:00

how do i go from asking tinder girls out on dates to just asking her to come over for netflix and chill

A few minutes into the conversation she asks:

"What are you doing tonight?"

>You.

CaptDeadlift · 2018-09-19T17:28:12+00:00

If you want fwbs then don't rely solely on tinder since someone with better looks , better status , more money will appear and they will rethink the relationship with you and play the LJBF card.

Meet women outside , take them on a date , escalate , if you manage a lay tell them that you 2 should do this more often and later drop the fwb relationship bomb on her.

It is quite likely she will accept since she has invested in you at this point.

I currently have 2 fwbs on the go and tinder sloots will flake on you more than ever ( I get matches , set up dates but before the date they flake) .

Tinder is not a solution since the competition is way way too high to snatch up a fwb unless you're a 8 or 9 out of 10.

Think about this.

Why would she keep on sleeping with you if with a couple minutes of swipes she can most definitely find a better dude?

Competition on tinder is way too high and women aren't even that attractive. ( The better ones are 7's and 8's but the top ones have such inflated egos that it's unbelievable)

omega_dawg93 · 2018-09-19T17:58:23+00:00

i have a main and 3 plates... two of them are married.

nobody knows about the others. women love drama so i avoid giving it to them.

clausternn · 2018-09-21T14:16:46+00:00

Luckyyy. Getting a girl to agree to go on a date with me from Tinder is definitely the issue. I get a healthy number of matches but turning them into dates is rocket science.

Title	question to those who spin plates
Author	DoIEvenLift111
Upvotes	17
Comments	58
Date	September 19, 2018 2:14 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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