Resentful Sister

awayofthought · 2016-11-28T19:31:16+00:00

How to I handle her constant victimized attitude and resenting me?

You don't.

I am the oldest brother and I am simply killing it in college. I joined a top frat, I have top grades, and I am already garnering a ton of interest from companies when I decided to go internship hunting.

While I am improving massively, my younger brothers have been giving me shit. "Bro you work too hard" "You just have it all because you're the oldest". Stupid shit like that. At first it bothered me, but then I realized that it does not matter what they think.

It's this toxic crab-in-the-bucket mentality that destroys most relationships after you find RP; let you sister say whatever she wants, you keep doing what you are doing.

fnordsnord · 2016-11-28T20:41:25+00:00

What's your goal? You aren't looking for a way to make her happy, are you? 'Cause only SHE can do that.

chooseaburner · 2016-11-28T20:11:24+00:00

Family will absolutely drag you down if they know they can. If I had to guess your sister feels entitled to something because things are going well for you.

Depending on what your relationship is you could either drop her like a rock if she doesn't drop the attitude, or I'd recommend you try and steer her towards something that is either productive or at least fulfilling.

House wives have plenty they can do- especially with the internet today- but if they don't have the initiative they can stew in their own juices and go a bit batty. If she has the aptitude she should be able to make decent money doing something like selling on eBay or something similar.

RPShitlord · 2016-11-28T22:45:15+00:00

Cut the bitch out if your life for a while. Absense makes the heart grow fonder. There's no problem between you to fix.

Sensei_Hensei · 2016-11-29T04:05:43+00:00

Plate her

RunawayGrain · 2016-11-29T16:47:27+00:00

The attitude arises from many women's inability to equate the amount of effort put in and how it impacts the outcome. My guess would be that she hasn't actually had to work for much in life, and has had pretty much everything handed to her. In short, she doesn't actually see the hard work put in, she just sees the success that goes along with it.

She is a stay at home mom who still hasn't found her calling.

LOL. She's found it. She married young to avoid getting a job, has figured out that raising kids is a job, and is pissed at everyone because the life of lounging around all day with her girlfriends that she had in mind isn't panning out. Meanwhile you're off with an exciting career and doing something in life. That's probably why she's whining.

How do I handle her constant victimized attitude and resentment towards me?

The way you have been handling it: Live well. Her toxic shit will increase to the point that your parents will figure it out too.

Title	Resentful Sister
Author	bozzie1991
Upvotes	2
Comments	12
Date	November 28, 2016 6:49 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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