As I've been getting better at GAME/TRP, many sexual opportunities have come up. Lately, I've had to deal with "sex regret" from a woman who I liked and she liked me back. We had 2 dates and I still didn't do the deed. We were getting to know eachother. I heard from various sources that you really gotta have sex early in the start of the relationship before you get friend-zoned, so I had it in my mind to close the deal asap. I've also heard that once you have sex with a girl, she is really into you, you seal the deal with her. Initially, we both seemed to have the agenda of making this a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship. Anyway,on the 3rd date, she saw I was looking bored and invited me up to her room to watch TV. I made the moves and she never resisted, but she also wasn't excited or attracted, which I felt was wierd.. I just assumed she is not expressive. We had sex and it was awkward and wierd for both of us. She just was not into it.

Today, she says "You're a good person. Unfortunately you are correct about the awkwardness. Not sure if I can explain why but my interest in you has diminished and you will not be hearing from me again."

so harsh.. but I found a link that explains what may have happened

**it seems that my situation falls under one of the following rationale

Disgusted with herself for having slept with you so fast (or at all)

  • Disgusted with herself because she thinks you're a no-good cad

  • Disgusted with herself because she thinks she was too easy / a slut

Disgusted with YOU for having "made" her sleep with you so fast (or at all)

  • Disgusted with YOU because she thinks you tricked or manipulated her into sex

  • Disgusted with YOU because she thinks you've made her act slutty

So, I tried to be more Alpha and get the faster lay (as I know in her past she's had faster lays, I didn't wanna be the beta chump that goes out on 5 dates with just kisses), but perhaps I did not get a deep enough connection with her, which is the main reason she regretted the sex?

Also, and this is important, the sex was very bad because I couldn't stay hard half the time because I need to know a girl a longer time in order to be able to perform well. Another fact, she paid for dinner that night (about $49). We were on a taking turns cycle. Up until the sex, we were still making future plans.

So I'm like a Beta trying to become more Alpha and its really not working either... what gives? Is it wrong to believe that you can be both Beta and Alpha and still find a girlfriend?