Been exclusive w this girl for about 3 months...we walk into a restaurant sit at the bar bartender asks what we want she orders hers then when the bartender was getting hers she orders my drink too...it got me pissed off but I kept cool and said I’m a big boy I can order myself..then I turned it on her and said oh I guess you wanted to buy it for me thank you...and she did..

She calls me yesterday and we start talking and I made a joke about a woman we know that’s highly unattractive and I made a joke about her getting me turned on and I’d fuck or something referencing that..she gets quiet and it’s about 20 mins in on the phone (I usually never go over that) and I said alright I’m going to let you go and left it at that

I call her today to go hang with her and she says I don’t want you coming over..I said why she said about that joke you made it hurt my feelings and you don’t care..I asked her why she took it so seriously... she goes on and on saying it was wrong...I said alright I’m leaving work I’ll come by now..she still says no..I said alright I’m going home then have a good night ...she stays silent like she wants me to stay on the phone..I hang up

Does shit like this deserve a hard next? I feel like it would teach her that I don’t put up with this shit...or a soft next?