Should I stick around?

fatgymrat · 2016-10-24T01:21:28+00:00

firstly, read the sidebar if you havent, cos you need it.

women dont speak overtly. what she said to you appears overt, but its all 'womanese'. the truth of it is hidden under the layers of shit she said.

See, everything you're doing for me I can do twice as much for you and more. I would do it but I just need to feel it and I need my own time dude I'm not easily convinced or triggered by anything = keep doing what youre doing, in the hope that ill reciprocate. i wont but im trying to get you to increase what you do for me.

I don't easily fall in love. = work hard for it, beta.

The only reason why I fell for the other dude was because he knew I like to take my time so he did that = im lying, i fell for him cos hes the opposite of you, but if i say this maybe youll increase your giving towards me.

I'm not trying to reject you because you didn't even ask me anything = ???? facepalm, im rejecting you even though i cant???

I'm just glad I got to experience your wonderful character.= cheers for the emotional support dweeb

. I suggest we enjoy ourselves before we decide on commitment and love= i wanna suck and fuck everything before i settle for a beta.

where you went wrong.

(we've known each other for a year now, isn't that enough time to know someone? = you fell into friendzone, and thought you could climb out.

I don't need to be the best for her to fall for me so I should stop being the best= she wants you to be a loser so you have no options, and she can use you like a cat uses a ball of string. dont be the best, other women might want you.

She loves the way I treat her, she embraces it and loves it but there's an issue from her side. She's missing something, it's from her side= yep, its that shes not attracted to you. she loves the attention, and the way you make her feel good about herself, but she doesnt see you as a sexual interest.

she told me that there's still a chance of course and she's not asking me to wait. I then asked her how much longer is she expecting me to give her my heart and then she said shouldn't I give you my heart as well? = you need to fix yourself. there is no chance with this one, she sees you as a chump, as do i. you can turn yourself around for another one though

dont reply, dont reach out to her. realise that this is going nowhere. if you still wanna talk to her, talk only as you would to a male friend. she is not going to be won over by you. maybe if you turn your life around and improve, she will come for you, but by that time you wont want her.

SkorchZang · 2016-10-24T02:36:03+00:00

I'm rushing things apparently (we've known each other for a year now, isn't that enough time to know someone?)

Patrice had a great line about that. "If you don't know me well enough to fuck after a date or two, you won't know me any better after a year. I want to fuck!"

Those long-ass messages you got are called "hamstering" and they mean absolutely nothing. You can trash it all, unread.

Read the TRP sidebar, you will then understand exactly what is going on. Quick lowdown: women are the gatekeepers of sex, but men are the gatekeepers of commitment. You've been acting like a merchant at the market, trying his damned hardest to give his store away for free to this girl. This naturally makes her suspicious, skeptical, and "let's just take it slow". Without the basic knowledge every man needs on female nature, you're screwed and will keep on screwing yourself over in many ways, large & small.

zboo1h · 2016-10-24T00:53:57+00:00

She's using you for emotional support.

She wants to get banged out by Chads and then settle with you later if she gets desperate.

She is keeping you around as a backup. It sucks. I would go silent.

Thunder_banger · 2016-10-24T01:04:44+00:00

You haven't made your intentions clear so it really depends on what you want. It sounds like she has created a good image of you in her head, don't ruin that, give her perception of you time to develop. Don't contact her for a little, be active on shared social media so she is reminded of you, and she will contact you shortly.

Tyler_Gatsby · 2016-10-24T01:27:47+00:00

Assuming you haven't had sex with her, everyone else's hard news is correct. If you've at least almost fucked her, you were just literally too nice and perfect like she said. She wants to fuck problems for her to stress over or fix, and you're not drama enough for her already boring first world white girl life.

Mr_ghostslayer · 2016-10-24T05:10:06+00:00

You know what has worked for me, just completely disappear, in other words become a ghost. Dont contact her, dont reply to her if she messages you, if you see her in public just say hi then say you have plans so you have to go. This is the only way to regain your self as a attractive man whereas an emotional spoon.

in the meantime work on yourself, gym, uni work, job, expand your social circle and find new girls.

Other posters have pretty much answered your questions. But this girl will come back to your life in a few years when you're successful. Just make sure you repeat the same words she told you after you fuck her.

RPShitlord · 2016-10-24T10:32:15+00:00

Tell her you're not looking for commitment or love, you just wanna hook up. Any unsatisfactory answer - hard next.

walawalawa · 2016-10-24T11:54:36+00:00

key word; "A year"...

You're being tooled. You're her "Friend"...

Girls like having orbiters and that's what you've become. Disappear. Cut her off. When she asks you what's wrong just say you're busy...

Be seen with other girls.

Go to things WITH other girls...

Basically forget her. She will come back. Then you escalate and if she pushes you away next her.

Title	Should I stick around?
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Upvotes	5
Comments	9
Date	October 24, 2016 12:21 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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