So I was seeing this woman for about a year and half up, until about July. We decided to part ways over distance issues but kept in touch and remained friendly with one another. In December, she moved back to the area and our old chemistry still remained. We quickly started going out and having dinners and we are essentially dating again.

However, I could tell in the vibe between us that something is different. After some conversation she informed me that she was seeing another guy in the town she was working in, that they were not officially together.

Now, I had a few plates in November that I stopped spinning because I actually want to be with this woman. She claims that she isn't dating any guys at the moment, including me which I found a bit surprising because we have been going out and fucking on a regular basis (amazing sex btw). She openly talks about wanting to have a relationship with me but won't until my divorce is finalized, which could be a few months out.

I guess I'm trying to determine whether she actually wants the relationship and is being genuine about not wanting to be serious until the divorce papers are filed or if she is creating a bogus hurdle just to wait on something from another guy.

I'm not interested in spinning plates anymore and was really hoping to be starting something real here but her reluctance gives me pause for concern. In my experience, women will move mountains to be with you if they want to but her hesitance to move this to the next level is disconcerting. Any thoughts?