S/O Thinks I'm Just Using Her

AFPJ · 2016-07-27T16:34:49+00:00

"I told you I'm done playing with you. Why ? Because I'm being used by you just for sex. That's how I see it. Not starting anything with you! Just saying. You come over smile up in my face all day. Talk about whatever. Always want to grab my ass. Sex me. Cuddle and bounce."

Translation: "having sex for the sake of enjoying it is not why I fuck you"; psychologically violent manipulation.

What can I do to get her to drop this foolish belief?

This is what happens when a woman no longer finds fucking a man good enough to be intrinsically rewarding so she then attempts to leverage the relationship for anything that's left (besides sex) to its fullest extent - problem is, for us, sex is paramount - and if it's suddenly not good enough for the woman, we have no business staying with her.

This relationship is now toxic because the thing you value very much, sex, doesn't make her happy like it makes you.

Secret to good LTRs: be with a chick who likes fucking you as much as you like fucking her.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2016-07-27T19:45:25+00:00

be worried if I ever STOP wanting sex from you." And that worked immaculately.

You're welcome.

verily_rp · 2016-07-27T19:01:41+00:00

Oh man, Patrice O'neal would have a field day with this bitch.

Listen man, YOU are the prize. Not her, you. She is out of line, and she knows it. Worst case scenario is that she wants to end this 'relationship' but doesn't know how to do it yet.

So here's what you do, and you'll probably get a good laugh at how quickly she changes her mind. You get ready to walk. Leave her on your terms and without giving her any closure. No bitch is going to walk out of a relationship until she leaves you completely destroyed.

You tell her this:

Hey listen babe, I liked what we had going but you go do what you gotta do. I mean I can't hold you, you gotta live your life. I'll be going out to the [bar/gym/work/etc]

And then don't talk to her again. Zero contact.

Then sit back and watch waterfall of phonecalls/texts/emails/etc. Trust me man, no bitch will leave you on your terms. They need closure. If you leave now it will haunt her forever.

RPShitlord · 2016-07-27T16:33:45+00:00

Your behavior is normal. Hers is disrespectful.

Silently downgrade and soft next. No contact until she reaches out horny. Bang. If no bang, hard next.

Whis_ · 2016-07-27T16:27:14+00:00

Next.

Throwaway244555 · 2016-07-27T16:56:17+00:00

Ignore her. Childrean complain about not getting their parents attention all the time and have tantrum. Hold frame and a&a

f0ster5 · 2016-07-27T17:26:48+00:00

"Show me why you should be anything more"

dragonpants6 · 2016-07-27T16:51:26+00:00

where the fuck was the A&A?

you're supposed to use your SO for sex

huge_gap · 2016-07-27T18:15:01+00:00

It means she feels like she isn't getting as much out of the arrangement as you are---regardless of the actuality of the situation.

In my experience when girls start whining for more they get immediate withdrawal of my time until they correct themselves. After that, if conditions persist then next.

BowlOfCandy · 2016-07-27T19:23:52+00:00

Perfect opportunity to agree and escalate. Your response was great.

MrRoxo · 2016-07-27T20:59:53+00:00

Your response was the only response acceptable other than just ignoring her.

I would ignore her until SHE contacts YOU. You are the leader of the relationship. Not her. If she continues i would just do what she wants and tell her to fuck off

jeezydasnowman · 2016-07-27T22:32:52+00:00

Failed shit test. Why are you arguing over text?

Title	S/O Thinks I'm Just Using Her
Author	chewbackaflocka
Upvotes	12
Comments	21
Date	July 27, 2016 4:21 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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