SSRIs and RedPill

50pluspiller · 2016-06-16T08:00:34+00:00

Nope, she doesn't need to know any of your issues or struggles, let alone you are on ADs.

Chicks can't handle any "weakness" in a man.

This is why you need good male friends.

InformalCriticism · 2016-06-16T09:54:08+00:00

If you need to tell anyone, tell your psychotherapist, that's what you're paying him for. If you are seeking a deeper connection to your LTR, do something new and fun with her, not load her down with emotional garbage, that's your job. Her job is to take that stress level down with positive feminine energy. You control how useful she is to you; don't make her job harder by making her do yours, too.

M1ster_MeeSeeks · 2016-06-16T12:26:54+00:00

I have bipolar disorder - a rather severe mood disorder that has long periods of depression and can have elevated mood shifts as well. SSRI's would put me in the hospital, but there are custom medications for my disorder that are effectively anti-depressants.

Mood shifts can take time. A glance at how long it takes to reach a steady state with your medication (4-5 weeks) - I would give it time.

My advice is simple: tell everyone in your life who is close to you that will benefit from the knowledge. Parents are pretty important unless you don't have that type of relationship with them, and the same can be said of siblings. Friends are a must, and if you can't tell them, chances are you shouldn't be calling them friends. Or just keep them separate in your mind as people you do activities with.

The reasoning is simple. You want people to be aware + on the lookout for your own destructive behavior, because sometimes you can be blind to your own issues. It is also really nice to have support in other ways.

Never tell anyone at work.

As for TRP and women, I haven't had an LTR since my diagnosis. And it's not something I would share with a casual partner. I'm seeing comments on here about perceived weakness - they may very well be right. You also have to be aware of the stigma of mental health, it can certainly hurt you if people aren't open to the idea of it being a real struggle that isn't your fault.

I probably will tell future LTR's about my situation because it can be pretty severe and I think they have the right to know. But realize it will not bring you any benefit compared to potential downside - and if we're looking through the lens of sexual strategy as a primary measure of success - then keeping it to yourself might be a better option.

beginner_ · 2016-06-16T10:14:53+00:00

Telling her or not is up to you. What matters is the way you tell it (factual, instead of emotional and crying) and you not expecting any kind of empathy or understanding from her side. There is a difference in telling you have a weakness and actually showing it.

Never taken an SSRI. For some they kill sex drive completely for others it makes it hard to impossible to come, eg. cure for premature ejaculation. Just don't expect wonders. These drugs are legally because their effect is limited in contrast to real (eg. illegal) drugs.

DabReligion · 2016-06-16T12:52:48+00:00

I've been on SSRIs since my early teenage years. I tried to get off of them freshman year of college but incidentally had some other things going on unrelated that affected my mental state so I just went back on them. I haven't talked to a therapist in a few years but I think I would like to start talking to someone again. Not for any specific reason, I'm in the best mental state I've been in in as long as I can remember -- I just would like to give therapy an open minded shot, because I was an angry, rebellious teenager last time I tried it.

niczar · 2016-06-16T13:58:39+00:00

Try tianeptine, it usually lifts my bad mood within 10 min. No sexual side-effects, freely available in the US from nootropics vendors.

qwerty_asd · 2016-06-16T16:12:57+00:00

Whatever dude. In our culture right now, that is no big deal. If you really like the chick, it's probably best to tell her as if it is no big deal--because it isn't. People with daily drug habits which really affect their behavior have a much tougher situation with this kind of honesty; I'm talking about stimulants, depressants, benzos, etc.

InfiniteAscent · 2016-06-16T17:38:46+00:00

I wouldn't mention psychotherapy to her. And if it does come up, never never tell her what you talk about with your therapist. You may just dig up shit she will regret knowing, or it will make her question you about any number of things. Once you share some of it she'll think it's fair game all the time. And for anyone else reading, if you decide to give it a try by all means get a male therapist. I may have made a mistake going to a woman, but it's still been very useful to me.

RPthrowaway123 · 2016-06-16T22:18:51+00:00

I take an SSRI. I'm not a fan, but it levels my emotions and keeps me from falling into depression while I'm in my current situation. Someday I'll be able to do without them, but not today.

I told my last girlfriend about them. Ended very badly. DO NOT TELL WOMEN ABOUT THEM, THEY CAN'T HANDLE THAT YOU HAVE A WEAKNESS.

They do mess with my sex drive. But I'd rather be stable and happy than high sex drive and thinking about killing myself over nothing. The tradeoff is worth it, and it's only temporary. You will improve yourself and your life and then get off them someday.

durrycharger69 · 2016-06-17T07:54:55+00:00

Read Grain Brain - By David Perlmutter. It worked for my depressive symptoms/anxiety. He links food sensitivities to inflammation (most notably gluten) and depression. Maybe it's something you can try.

9600ronse · 2016-06-16T16:44:24+00:00

Don't tell her about the meds, I've done it and she dropped me like a hot coal burning through her hands.

Also I'm on venlafaxin

sharp7 · 2016-06-16T21:54:39+00:00

From my experience depression won't come until you make a real change in your life. Maybe lifting is boring now because it doesn't do anything for you anymore, its not a challenge, just a chore.

Aim higher. The only cure I've ever found for my depression/anxiety is basically being a workaholic for something I actually wanted to do, no matter how stupid, ambitious, reckless, etc that goal was.

Aim higher.

Title	SSRIs and RedPill
Author	Leaveshisweed
Upvotes	24
Comments	22
Date	June 16, 2016 7:29 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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