Still not satisfied

Iron_and_Glass · 2018-08-17T21:26:28+00:00

What the fuck did I just read in the comments? Are we being invaded by /r/relationships or some bullshit?

Look. You need to do what you need to do, and whatever the fuck these bp faggots are spouting to shame you is of no consequence.

Your head is obviously not in a mindset of settling down right now or being tied to one woman, and from a biological perspective it never is supposed to be (males by nature seek to spread their offspring via multiple partners). You can be open with your gf about it and if that openness ends your relationship so be it (you already have abundance mentality because you can and want to game other women). As to their feelings and not wanting to hurt your partner, there are coping techniques or frame of mind switches (i.e. reading no more Mr. Nice guy) but the main point should be that you are looking out for your own best interests and enjoying your life to the fullest.

So fuck everyone else in this thread, you do you bro.

Black_m0ngoose · 2018-08-17T23:30:58+00:00

Men of ambition aren't designed to be comfortable. They're designed to succeed.

Success entails struggle. Conflict.

Find comfort in your discomfort.

The bitter-sweet truth of the red pill is that you'll never be happy. You'll either be satisfied or you won't. Happiness is a chemical reaction that if you allow yourself to indulge too much in, you'll end up wrecking your life like a drunk driver behind the wheel.

Stay focused. Stay sober.

Oneitis is for slaves.

Too often I see young men who are only willing to consider sacrifice when their hand starts to show gangrene. It takes true resolve to cut off a perfectly healthy hand from its shackles in the pursuit of freedom.

chazthundergut · 2018-08-17T20:49:07+00:00

Who breaks up with a low-drama chick who cooks and is a freak in bed?

BPasFuck · 2018-08-18T07:57:02+00:00

If you're not ready to settle down, you're not ready to settle down.

Do what you gotta do.

The regrets you're feeling will fade in time. You're feeling them, because you don't want to be a bad guy. This is some of that blue pill shit creeping in.

Smush it. There's no reason you can't tell her that you just don't feel like the time is right for you to be in a committed relationship-- that you wish her the best, etc, but done is done.

If you stay in it, you'll just wind up cheating later on. Better to be righteous. Heck, do it right, she might agree to let you stray, long as she's your 'serious' girl.

red_matrix · 2018-08-17T20:26:48+00:00

Why did you break up? Fucking randoms can lead to a lot of emptiness. Have you actually done this before? Fucking plates should never be a goal. It's something you do while you strive to reach your goals.

Peter_B_Long · 2018-08-18T00:53:37+00:00

It's natural to feel guilty at first. But know this. She is 100% going to branch swing soon. I was in the same shoes as you last year. I wanted to focus on myself and spin plates so I dumped my LTR even though she was good to me. She cried, begged for another chance, told me she was going to wait for me. A few weeks later, she was already branch swinging to one of her friends that she told me not to worry about.

This shit is real. You do you man. As long as you keep improving your value and create abundance mentality through spinning plates and having options, you will eventually find someone even better than your ex. I have a new LTR now and she's 100% better than my ex in every way.

Charlie_Wright8312 · 2018-08-17T21:08:13+00:00

She's hot, cooks for you, supports you in everything and is wild in bed. And you decide to break up with her because... You want to work out and fuck random girls? This decision was hard to make because it's fucking dumb and you know it.

TRP is more about being aware of the risks of an LTR and practicing caution than about mindlessly dumping your seemingly perfect (at least for now) girlfriend just because of some theories that you read online.

AWALT, so you may not want to marry her, per se, but by all means continue what you have for as long as you can without BS and drama.

FixYourselfFirst · 2018-08-17T20:21:16+00:00

You need longer term goals. Do you know what you want to do with your life? Then your decisions become much easier to make. For example, one of my goals is to climb Kilimanjaro in ~5 years. I know that I need to save up about $10k, get more fit, and practice on some smaller treks. If I go over-budget or gain a few pounds, I might be delaying my trip.

All i want to do is workout , grind at life (school, hobbies), and fuck randos.

Why do you want to workout?
Why do you want to grind at life?
Why do you want to fuck randos?

Do these help or hinder your long term life goals?

thesmithofwords · 2018-08-18T00:02:32+00:00

All i want to do is workout , grind at life (school, hobbies)

You can do all of this in an LTR, if you think otherwise she had you by the balls.

and fuck randos

To each their own but fucking randos is more time and money consuming than fucking a girl who already likes you and is committed. This makes no sense in relation to your reasoning that ltrs are too time consuming. Makes me believe you have never spun plates before

Not to mention the benefits a good LTR provides the man as you said.

You are either retarded and will regret what you did, or are omitting a LOT of information.

But in the end do what you want to do, just looking at this from an objective view it appears you made an impulse decision based on the false premise that your life will be better than it was.

Mangasbzo7 · 2018-08-17T23:28:08+00:00

Y did you break up lol?

You can have LTR and just fuck randos on the side.

My gf has caught me cheating multiple times in past. She is in her home country for a month right now, and she knows subconsciously if she isn't around my dick will be in other women.

She's sticks around bc she know she not gonna find higher SMV / RMV than me, and obvs can't be 100% sure, but I'm fairly sure she doesn't cheat on me either, for the exact sane reason

daytonbull90 · 2018-08-17T21:13:40+00:00

Good job now she hates you lol

Title	Still not satisfied
Author	SecretRedditLife22
Upvotes	12
Comments	14
Date	August 17, 2018 7:28 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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