Suicidal Oneitis

void-z · 2016-05-10T11:01:03+00:00

The problem is that you don´t have other options.

Hit the gym,be more social and talk to other women.You will see there are much better woman out there than this one.

quicklogaccount · 2016-05-10T13:02:04+00:00

Therapy is underrated here, seek it but do online research on the person you are hiring. Don't go in it blindly. Publications are highly valuable among those professionals.

Having read the fair bit of the sidebar, at this point you should know that you should seek INTERNAL validation, not EXTERNAL. I've said more than once that external validation is an addictive drug that helps some people for some time, for starters, but destroys ALL people that rely solely on it. I could never imagine I'd see the literality of it so soon though.

That put, if you do your research, you will see that there are easy paths to receive external validation from women. You said you were a virgin, so, on this aspect, rest assured that you will get women if you want to and follow any of those paths, you can trust yourself on that one, but here's the catch. Don't do it now.
Start of by working on yourself. GYM, start yesterday, get yourself habituated to endorphin. Put your brain to uses other than thinking of her, 1000 pages a month, college. I'm sure that there is something needing it, put it there, meditate if you need to.

fnordsnord · 2016-05-10T15:24:07+00:00

If you're ACTUALLY suicidal, call a suicide hotline and LISTEN to them. Therapy isn't popular around here, but actual Black Pill thinking is beyond the scope of an anonymous internet advice forum. We can't help you with this.

Mudpielol · 2016-05-10T11:50:10+00:00

one thing to keep in mind when

lost. Defeated. Broken and need help in anyway possible.

is that now the only way to go is up. Perhaps consider some therapy sessions to help you get over this moment in your life.

SpaceCrunch · 2016-05-10T17:17:54+00:00

Long walks. I'm serious.

This helps me when I am being neurotic. Something about the repetitive motion helps to clear out my mind. Also I think getting out and exploring is just nice.

prostaddict · 2016-05-10T18:15:15+00:00

I just got over a suicidal oneitis. While in it, not a day went by that I didn't think about her for 90% of the day. I couldn't have a single conversation without bringing her up. I felt like it was absolutely impossible that we don't end up together - the idea of life without her in it was something my mind rejected fully. No girl - regardless of how great or how hot - could compare with her. She was the most beautiful, funny, intelligent thing on earth to my mind.

After a year, we finally met up - and guess what? I felt absolutely nothing. I looked at her - and all I could notice were the flaws I never noticed before. The flaws in her beauty were amplified, and all I could pay attention to were the flaws in her personality as well. You know what thought entered my mind after that evening? "What the fuck was I thinking? THAT's the person I almost killed myself over? She's a mess!"

After that night - I realized I had her on a pedestal. All those flaws had existed before, but I chose not to see them - my mind was blinded by this... obsessive love. It began the same way yours did too - the most dangerous and unhealthy relationships I've experienced was when the girl gave me an unusual and unwarranted degree of love and attention at the start. Why? Because she's just as unhealthily putting you on a pedestal. The second you start having feelings for her, she immediately knocks you off - and the scales are reversed.

It's all in your head man - and believe me, she isn't as great as your mind is currently making it out to be. It really is just time, self care, and novelty - fill your time making new experiences and it'll be easier to get over her

Feel free to PM me if you need to, as I literally just got over what you're currently going through

Jakecarguy · 2016-05-10T13:33:12+00:00

I really want to help you because I can relate with you 100%

My story goes like this.Imagine,a Japanese-White mix looking God fearing woman.She pleaded for my love.I never wanted to love because I knew the selfish character of women yet after one week somehow she captured my attention as she was way too different from other women.She respected my parents.She respected me.She was very respectful towards others.She helped the poor.She would do everything a man wants a girl to do.

As you can see,by American standards,this girl is an angel.By Indian standards,this girl is great.I never said that I loved her but we were lovers.I got emotionally connected with her.I sort of believed that she is my other half.

Make no mistake.I am not a guy who does not know about women.I am not a desperate man(I haven't spend a single dime).I was in my 20s and was very muscular(10% body fat).I am pretty rich(Not a Billionaire but you know).

Her parents opposed our relationship when they came to know about it.Not because I am a bad guy or anything like that.This is how stuffs work in India.Anyway,she said that she is moving on with her life.I didn't know how to respond.

Yes,that angel changed into a devil.Where is the love?What about the things that she promised?

As I had experience with women.I do read a lot.I though like this.

"Is she thinking about me now" and I got an answer.It was No.

So I stopped thinking about her and I moved on.She comes to my mind sometimes during night yet I just ask my heart to shut the fuck up.

So here is what you need to do.

0-You need to be reading about women from the TRP and write it down on a piece of paper in your own words.Burn that shit or keep that in locker once you complete this.You should do this for one week. 1,Ingest the fact that she is a woman and hence evil.You need to force yourself to believe this because else your heart will stop you from doing this.This is very hard but you need to do this.

2,Remove all her photos,contact,her friends,anything that reminds me of her from your home.Just burn it.

3,Get another girl.Not because the new girl will be an angel but to forget the past girl.Make sure you never get emotionally attached to this new girl.Once you get a new girl,you will forget the old girl.Have fun with her but once you feel like you are happy with your life.You should leave her.It is very important.If she is very beautiful,keep her as a plate.

4,This is the most important point.Ask yourself what you need to achieve in life.You will have an answer.Ask yourself what you need to do in order to achieve this.You will have an answer.The task should be small enough to be completed in a day or a week.Focus on just one mission and complete it and move to the next one.

benusmc · 2016-05-10T13:46:48+00:00

What i try to remember when feeling there is no hope is that nobody ever promised us that life would be happy all the time. When realizing we need to experience all emotional states for a reason, it can be a little less personal. Accept that this is just another feeling, not good, not bad, just is, and it will eventually pass.

Another approach i like is the idea that we don't evolve when everything is going great. It's evolve or parish, and through evolution you will come out a more equipped person.

You don't actually learn where you are until you're tested

Vajesticles · 2016-05-11T18:19:48+00:00

It's uncanny how much I can relate to you, OP. I am 23 years old as well and last October an online girl I'd known for about two years and had fallen for destroyed me. It's a long and complicated story, such as I'm sure yours is as well, but for the sake of brevity, she texted me on Skype just 3 days before my flight to see her (after tickets, hotel, and car rental were already paid for) that she now had a boyfriend. Completely shocking and traumatizing me. That night was definitely one of the most traumatic and painful experiences I have ever felt in my life.

It fundamentally changed me as a person and has ultimately set me down the path I am currently going in life.

She lived in another country too, I was a virgin at the time as well (she never knew), and it was only a day after my mother and family found out about her (they still don't know this story and only about a handful of people do).

Like yourself as well, she was the one who fell in love with me first which then caused me to realize I was in love with her too.

Now 6 months later, being in a much more different place than I was then I can see how insecure and jealous she would make me through the half-truths and things she decided to share with me. They were shittests. And I practically failed all of them. Although I can also see how I was unintentionally very alpha at times too which led her to confessing her love to me first. It all slowly went down hill once we hit the "I love you phase." because I had never been in love or even had a girlfriend before and most of my teen years being spent indoors playing videogames all day stunted my emotional growth as a person.

Like your girl too, this one was full of daddy issues. Very rebellious, always resented her parents, and has had a history of a abusive relationships including almost being sexually assaulted while on a trip in Europe.

I no longer have any regrets though for being inexperienced at the time because it was a learning experience. I genuinely loved her, my intentions were good, and I wanted something so I went for it. In the end, I've come to terms with the fact that she's a dishonest and manipulative person. One of the hardest things to deal with is that she doesn't really feel any remorse for what she did.

I do not forgive her but I am able to find solace now in knowing that my life is going to be much more awesome without her. Being striked down to such a pathetic and depressing low in life because of what she did to me was the catalyst that spurred me into becoming a self-help junkie.

Books, TheRedPill, seminars, lifting. This will now be your new obsession. Dedicate your life to that and start right fucking now.

If you wanna Skype or talk more in private don't hesitate to PM me.

returnofthemack2 · 2016-05-11T00:23:34+00:00

all you had was terrible codependency. You should seek a therapist tbh, no one would be able to help you half as much

Title	Suicidal Oneitis
Author	BlueWeakness
Upvotes	4
Comments	22
Date	May 10, 2016 10:49 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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