Suspect my LTR is cheating

ForeverInYou · 2020-05-09T23:08:36+00:00

You're new here, so I recommend to read the sidebar.

As a guy who has been cheated and learned to thrust his gut: You shouldn't be worried about this stuff. To me if something feels off, it probably is. If in the case it's me that's being paranoid, it's because I've lowered myself and entered the girls frame.

Summing up: if you're worrying about your girl cheating, either she is, and/or you're lacking in your goals/game

McLovinReturns · 2020-05-09T23:31:04+00:00

Trust your gut

Pull back a little

Do random shit that will confuse her

I'm guessing you guys text each other goodnight. Randomly in the conversation like at 10:00 P.M. Just say "waking up early, goodnight" this will get her hamster wheel spinning. After this don't respond no matter what and wake up early to go hiking or something. Only respond to her after you're finished. If she never sent anything back than she's a lost cause and you should move on cause no woman is worth that much time and stress.

Focus on yourself, improve, and gain more plates if you do end it with her

She's probably talking to other guys for that sweet dopamine release from validation

Unlikely_Composer · 2020-05-10T10:25:00+00:00

Been there.

Where there is doubt, there is no doubt.

Trust your gut.

GraphiteIsInPencils · 2020-05-10T05:10:44+00:00

You dont have to dump her but already assume that shes cheating so you can mentally prepare yourself and detach yourself from her in case it didnt happen and will in the future.

Sonny_Luna · 2020-05-10T03:22:27+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through this. Even if it’s not true I’m sorry you’re having this concern. I hope it gets resolved in as ideal a way as possible.

Good luck.

SteveSan82 · 2020-05-10T06:01:31+00:00

Read The Rational Male. She is more than likely texting other men, calling them on the phone.

She was never yours, it was just your turn.

spartan_samurai · 2020-05-10T06:10:48+00:00

Listen to your instincts, may be your relationship is coming to an end. Plan your exit to save yourself from the drama.

If you are having thoughts about your LTR cheating on you, then your relationship is only gonna get worse from here and not better.

tacosattack · 2020-05-10T13:24:25+00:00

Get your affairs in order, reach out to your friends you haven't talked to in a while. Have a support network in place in case you need it. No need to issue any ultimatums just yet, but you may want to start withdrawing your emotional investment and start talking with other girls to increase your abundance.

I was also in a 4 year LTR when my gut told me something was off. I decided screw this and moved into a hostel for 4 weeks. Being around backpackers and talking to women again really boosted my self esteem back up. People were a bit confused why a local with a full time job was staying at a backpackers but it made for a good story.

Before that I really felt trapped. I cohabited with my LTR and worried she would snap if I left her, worried what would happen to my stuff etc. It was refreshing to remind myself that actually I could remove myself from the situation within 24 hours with a simple phone call. Felt very empowering and I don't regret it at all.

HurricaneHugues · 2020-05-10T14:28:12+00:00

When's the last time you saw her?

manfrombelow · 2020-05-10T11:19:02+00:00

Alpha don't jump into conclusion just because he notices a change in pattern behaviours from his woman.

Just pretend you don't notice anything. Keep everything fun, light and relaxed. When you are together, say something like "I know there's something bothering you, so if you wanna talk about it, I'm always listening to you" and then leave her at that.

Title	Suspect my LTR is cheating
Author	umichiganbackup45
Upvotes	14
Comments	18
Date	May 9, 2020 10:59 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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