The fuck

theycallmebigdaddyoh · 2019-12-18T10:06:24+00:00

this happens way too much, girls don’t wanna make any moves at all they wanna get moves made on them, or sometimes at most they hit you up and then just drop the wheel lmao.

like she ain’t not interested she just can’t lead, so when she texts u wyd n ur like x and she’s just like oh she ain’t tryna ditch u (most likely) u just gotta take the wheel

girls text me shit like “but like that body🤤🤤” and when i tell her to amos she ain’t doin shit

ArnoldT1000 · 2019-12-18T09:45:45+00:00

Giving her your number instead of asking for hers

hidden_boi_premium · 2019-12-18T11:52:18+00:00

Don’t listen to these dumbass comments

If this is a real account you failed the shit test

It’s a vetting strat girls who’ve been used and abused do to eliminate “potential fuckboys”

Correct response is to respond with “depends on our vibe” or “shit at least buy me a drink 1st” or something along that territory

But adding a chick on game is a fucking headache long term regardless so I wouldn’t so you long much if anything

oldslut · 2019-12-18T10:19:11+00:00

why would you give her all control in the interaction? why not instead say, give me your number, and then text her when you want to?

opper-hombre1 · 2019-12-18T14:14:36+00:00

We not gonna talk about his odd first date request?

CainPrice · 2019-12-18T16:58:29+00:00

Unless you are super-duper good-looking, when a girl flat-out asks you if you want to fuck on Tinder, she's testing to see if you jump at the opportunity.

If you do, you've outed yourself.

Remember, you're supposed to be a guy who's already fucking half a dozen girls just like her. A guy who knows the game and gets women and is good at it. You're supposed to be the one screening her to see if she's worth fucking.

When she outright says, "Wanna fuck?", unless you are a serious, model-grade, hot as shit guy, that is not a serious question. It is a test to see if you jump hungrily on the offer instead of demonstrating that you know the game by recognizing that the offer is non-serious and by playing the fun, vague, banter game.

You want to meet her for a fun date, and give -her- the chance to quality herself to you, then take her home. Your visible goal as far as she's concerned is to meet people and have fun and whatever happens happens. Sure, under the table, we all know that you're trying to fuck her. So does she. But you failed the test. You can't let yourself fall for rookie traps like that by outing yourself as someone who doesn't know the game.

Also, a running date isn't a date. You want drinks close to your place or hers. Not to invite a girl out for cardio. That's stupid.

Boggob15 · 2019-12-18T14:33:22+00:00

First of all, there are 1,000's of guys in her inbox. Most of who, look like you or better. You'd be better off getting her number and meeting her while the initial attraction is there.

To answer your question, when she asked, she was looking to see how desperate you were. Learn the game of seduction. If she says "wanna fuck", you should say "Why should I fuck you?". It's that simple, give them chase they crave.

Don_Draper27 · 2019-12-18T17:14:47+00:00

I saw a post on another sub of a dude who posted a detailed graph of the data he inputted during his Tinder journey. It starts off with him matching with 200+ women and then how many responded, how many gave a number, how many set a date, how many showed up for the date, how many he ended up f-closing, and how many he ended up plating.

Out of the 200+ women he matched with he only f-closed with 3 of them and only plated 2 (f-closed more than once).

So with this dude's data, the chances of him actually fucking someone they matched with on Tinder is ~1%.

Now, how many reasons do you think are possible for why a Tinder date isn't texting you?

My point is, quit tripping. There's no reason why you should be scratching your head about why 1 tinder match isn't contacting you.

Skylights1000 · 2019-12-18T10:59:58+00:00

You literally didn’t do anything wrong, and most of the assholes commenting are wrong.

If she was truly interested, then things would go through smoothly and you’d have to do a lot more to fuck it up. So I’m this case, she most likely is an attention/validation seeker.

Edit: it’s better to approach bitches in real life though. Tinder is trash unless you have an amazing body, and pictures.

immortal_wound · 2019-12-18T10:30:20+00:00

Has anybody ever thought that this is more based on female strategies than it has to do with her? I can see girls doing this up for something but then ghost as if nothing happens. Sometimes I feel like this is more of a way to lure in weak men so they can take advantage of them. Or she also has other ones on her tinder list which are the reason she hasn't start anything with you. I mean come on, she is on tinder afterall. Which means this bitch has more abundance mentality than you. Stop wasting your time on tinder a lot of hoes lurk through there. So dont expect to get your feelings hurt.

amwfhunter · 2019-12-18T11:13:07+00:00

Could be just a fake account

2019-12-18T14:37:26+00:00

She found a better option

trackstaar · 2019-12-18T16:41:42+00:00

She probably wanted more of a conversation after she asked if you wanted to fuck. Or it was just to mess with you cus you asked if she wanted to do cardio

wowkwo · 2019-12-18T17:28:04+00:00

a lot of tinder is women validation seeking, you didn't do anythign wrong.

boy_named_su · 2019-12-18T18:30:31+00:00

the guy gets the girls number

2019-12-18T18:45:30+00:00

Domebeers · 2019-12-18T20:15:48+00:00

Waiting for a woman you met on tinder to text first, huh?

XXXMersenne · 2019-12-18T13:04:49+00:00

Go out and Game IRL.

Chicks won't really get the chance to ghost on face to face interactions. Once you get good you'll prefer it as it's order of magnitude more fun, challenging & rewarding.

As per your question: You're on tinder, what did you expect.

Hit her up with some shit like: "Hello? u were supposed to spot me the Gym" and if she bites, sweet, you joke around a lil then make plans. If the ghosting persists or plans are a no go, fuck it and move on. But that's not so easy with a modicum of matches here & there that convert to meet ups not to mention lays. Motherfuckers are too cynical these days.

But that's what I love about going out regularly: Shitloads of interactions & Shitloads of immediate feedback.

At the start it takes some social acuity to understand what's going right/wrong and for that I recommend watching The BluePrint Decoded. Once that's down tho your gains are pretty much exponential for a very long time, because you're learning what's cool & what's not:

What social dynamics are at play in areas you frequent?
Do you wear drab clothing due to a dormant personality? Or do you consciously select comfortable, Budji clothing which complements a virile, liberated temperament?
What's your naturally inclined style of interaction?
- Do you feel more congruent being high energy? Chill? Centre of attention storytelling? intimate one on ones?
- You have to practise the shit out of them so you know intuitively that, all things being equal, "I really enjoy X"— Not because the others are hard, or tricky to "pull off" or I never get the chance. You max out each skill & feel which one is most congruent at the top (although that being done you'll probably enjoy them all; especially the ones your worked hardest for).

Go Out, the resources are all there. Y'all just scared to talk to chicks sober for a few hours.

Better things 2 do, no time etc. Make all the excuses you want but that means you'll still be asking the same Sidebaré questions a year from now. Growth & Change require conscious, concerted efforts in your Chosen direction so Apply yourself & Get what you want.

Title	The fuck
Author	ArnoldT1000
Upvotes	9
Comments	44
Date	December 18, 2019 9:43 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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Go out and Game IRL.