Things are heated..temporary separation, needing to ease back into this

kick6 · 2014-06-16T19:06:54+00:00

Here's the thing: ideally you want her to be part of your world, yes. However, this assumes your world is worth being part of. It sounds to me like this is where your problem lies. I'd advise building a man - a mission - that a woman wants to be a part of first. Forget any other RP shit like dread game, dread isn't going to help if being around you sucks.

KyfhoMyoba · 2014-06-16T22:21:33+00:00

As far as the 'is there another woman?' goes, don't 'squash that', let her sweat!! That's the whole point of dread game!! Let her hamster do the work FOR you.

And DON'T WAIT TO IMPLEMENT RP!! Take action NOW.

unassuming_aussie · 2014-06-17T06:36:04+00:00

As a totally different idea, make sure you have a lawyer ready in case things go pear shaped (which they can do even with effort put in on both sides). As a divorced male, you will automatically become a beta bux guy just because of the legal system. Tread warily and join /r/mensrights. There is a fair bit of whining going on, but there is also great advice on how to deal with divorce.

I have an LTR and when I started my journey and toning up, I got all the same shit as you. I basically told her that I am being a better man and I want to avoid dropping dead of a heart attack at 50. No mention of red pill and 100% truth.

I said if she didn't like it then she obviously doesn't have my best interests at heart so maybe I should start looking around. She really backed off then and has been very supportive. It also has had the added benefit as I have introduced more of the red pill philosophy into our relationship of making us closer, me less whiny and negative (like you mention) as well as getting more work. People will list with an agent that looks good and has a sunny disposition and acts confident before they will a beta.

To be short, make the changes you are introducing all about yourself, which they are, and she will follow you along for the ride.

KyfhoMyoba · 2014-06-16T22:19:59+00:00

You're right, OP, whining and complaining about ANYTHING is very BP.

Never let 'em see you sweat.

captainbloodd · 2014-06-16T23:31:24+00:00

Who brought up the idea of giving each other space? You or her?

Title	Things are heated..temporary separation, needing to ease back into this
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Date	June 16, 2014 6:16 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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