Thoughts on asking before making moves?

SkorchZang · 2016-03-18T04:11:48+00:00

Only ask if you hate the girl, hate yourself, and hate the fact that you're a man.

Otherwise, it's all done with the eyes, the gentle fingertip touches that might precede something more intimate following. You're not "asking", but you're not throwing yourself in it like it's rugby either. Like she's a little kitten or bird, you're gentle, unassuming. Not trying to capture, just pet her...

That's one way to go, if it suits your style, it's hard to go wrong with that.

abdada · 2016-03-18T01:07:02+00:00

I go in for the K-close very early in the date, get it out of the way. Then she's crawling all over me the rest of the evening.

Str8_Pillin · 2016-03-18T01:25:01+00:00

No matter what you're still asking. One is either physical or verbal.

The yes you get from physical is a lot more satisfying and will get you more, in my opinion. The 'no' being a slap or being called creepy. But, risk vs reward. The only reason where I could see someone verbally asking is so that their 'no' answer will come as less of a blow. But that's kind of the pussy route isn't it? The girl might've been receptive to you making a move, but after that bitch move of asking she may get turned off. Also I could see it being more likely to trigger her ASD. It's easier to ask forgiveness than it is to get permission.

oldredder · 2016-03-18T09:11:50+00:00

As long as the way you ask is with confidence instead of weakness, it's cool. If the way you touch makes it seem like you're afraid to touch her more, or afraid to talk to her as well, that's also weak.

Like for example if I do ask I'm going to act like I don't really have to but I want to hear her say it, say how she wants me to touch her, so she's committed to admitting how attracted she is. It puts her on the spot but that just drives up her emotions for attraction as long as I don't fuck up and do something weak.

frerri · 2016-03-18T07:49:48+00:00

Never ask. Just keep pushing and escelating carefully. If she stops you you know youve gone to far. So pull back abit, make her comfortable and push again...

stickfiguresk · 2016-03-18T09:08:35+00:00

I kiss her when I feel like it's the right moment, after kino, which I plan before I meet her. And if we're making out, my hands on a tit.

Asking permission to do anything is horrible every time. Feel it out and come in with a strategy.

WolfenSatyr · 2016-03-18T13:27:05+00:00

I don't ask, I tell.

"I am going to kiss you." Then I take my kiss.

"I am putting my hand on your belly." I make a joke about feeling her butterflies, or go back to kissing, or hold her close and continue to talk.

To go beyond that, I flip it to tell her what I want.

"Take off your shirt."

"Lay next to me."

But I don't ask.

[deleted] · 2016-03-18T21:11:21+00:00

Going for it is your asking, if she doesn't like it she will say so or display physical language accordingly.

Asking for permission literally says that:

You lack the social calibration to tell if she's into you or not.
You lack the balls to take risks.
You are insecure or your SMV vs hers.
You don't have experience, thus your SMV drops big time.

While you're around, go read the side bar twice.

Title	Thoughts on asking before making moves?
Author	theimmortalmortal
Upvotes	9
Comments	14
Date	March 18, 2016 1:06 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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