Trouble getting past this one. What am I doing wrong?

Talinor09 · 2021-01-24T18:26:25+00:00

Rejection breeds obsession.

You just have to find another girl who spins your wheels

Ifoundthedevilfirst · 2021-01-24T19:45:44+00:00

Your in love with the idea of her. Real her isnt same person you have in your head. Happens alot with brief encounters especially one you like.

Also the failed attempt is a reminder to look within for where you went wrong, can do better.

FightForYourWay · 2021-01-24T20:57:21+00:00

It’s your ego - You still have a beta ego. You actually care that this girl rejected you. A lot more work to do on your self-esteem.

redhawkes · 2021-01-24T19:32:29+00:00

Stop letting some girl you haven't banged to live rent free in your head.

It's simple, forbidden fruit, you want what you can't have. Everything else exists only in your head along with the pedestal.

Forever_A7oneWolf · 2021-01-24T19:35:02+00:00

Are you me? I thought I'm the only one experienced this the thing is i didn't even fuck this woman but can't remove her to my head , well at least I'm aware I'm just into her shape and big ass i just want to bang her and none of my plate have a body like that so that's my reason to think about her it's just a lust not love. But still hard to move when you missed your chance without giving her a good fuck.

Thefreeman911 · 2021-01-24T18:51:56+00:00

What is it about her that has infatuated you?

Herdsengineers · 2021-01-24T22:13:36+00:00

I'm married now to a girl that would fit the absolute definition perfectly of for the type of woman TRP says to find. And I gotta tell you, she's about as close to "unicorn" status as one can get. That said, I have an old college flame that I never fucked, only kissed her once, and she still floats in my thoughts sometimes. We were FB friends before I deactivated, and the only reason I might reactivate is really to keep tabs on her, to keep the connection. Which is totally fucking stupid.

Sometimes, a girl just gets under your skin and its hard or almost impossible to dislodge her. It can happen to Chad-iest Alpha, high SMV guy out there. I've just accepted that I'm always gonna have a spot in my heart for the old flame, it's never going away. So I've got to be smart about how I manage it instead.

Not sure what to else to tell you other than at some point, some other woman can get under your skin, and you can get under her's too. It won't be your old flame, but it will be just as good. Not unicorn good, AWALT is real. Just keep those feelings in check, they might not go away. The trick is to understand that it didn't work with her for a reason, despite your feelings, don't let your feelings rule you. Rule them instead. Find someone that it works out with instead, even if it means continuing to have other feelings for old flames in you that just don't go away.

longjeep2005 · 2021-01-24T23:39:13+00:00

Time heals all wounds, just keep living your life and meeting other girls

Willem_Dafuq · 2021-01-25T02:25:51+00:00

First recognize that there’s nothing wrong with yourself. This feeling is natural. Just delete all her contacts, block her from social media, do what you have to do to get her out of your min and it will pass. But don’t feel ashamed or angered by it.

2021-01-25T02:33:55+00:00

this is normal, it’ll go away with time.

she’s the one you didn’t fuck.

usually the worst ones are the ones you were really close to smashing but didn’t for whatever reason.

you’ll get over it.

keep smashing, my guy.

btt069 · 2021-01-25T02:38:46+00:00

dont expect hb7 to be what you have in head. its shit, you are building a temple of oneitis in your head. it doesnt make sense. try meditation to get rid of such thoughts.

maybe you need more exploring, more than what you have been doing.

if i were you, i wouldnt give a fuck if i was not interested in fucking her.

from your say, it looks like, you are considering her a real unicorn cause you have made that mentality in your head. this usually happens when there is no any interaction between two persons.

maybe figuring out her behaviour more and concluding that she is cunt would remove thoughts of her from your brain. dont see her at all.

the more you see the more intimidated you become if you dont have self satisfaction. thats why i said try to make your mind more busy and dont see her at all ever.

Noodlesoupe2 · 2021-01-25T03:52:48+00:00

We all want what we don’t have. If you fuck her shes just gonna end up another plate to you.

tindichin · 2021-01-25T12:25:19+00:00

Meh, I believe lots of people have that one or whatever you wanna call it, just remove yourself as far as you can from her, that's the only thing that sorta worked for me, no matter how many chicks i've been with after the breakup, gftow and all, she still gets to me. I just kinda accepted it by now and decided to get as far away as possible and let time do it's thing. Don't have any other options really so fuck it.

Jetrous · 2021-01-25T16:00:06+00:00

Write her the most desperate shit you can think of. Like so bad it's gonna get you either a restraining order or a top place in some demented subreddit. Something like "I'm so in love with you I can't stop thinking about you. I just wanna hold you in my arms and kiss you. I can't get over the fact we will never be together." You get it.

Send it to her. Look at it. Let her see it. Think about how fucking pathetic it is.

What you did: 1) definitely disqualified yourself; and 2) realized how dumb your obsession is. Really. Do it.

rabmcm32 · 2021-01-24T18:57:45+00:00

You were/are in love with her. Just because TRP and AWALT exists doesn’t mean you can’t be in love. But strong feelings don’t pertain to just one woman - find one who is as into you as you her.

Title	Trouble getting past this one. What am I doing wrong?
Author	nussbomber
Upvotes	17
Comments	16
Date	January 24, 2021 6:17 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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