TRP/Dating vs Daddy Issues?

rutluv · 2016-09-17T11:24:02+00:00

Having daddy issues your lack of clicking is normal. The fact you realized this solves half of your problem. Try to find a reliable blue pillar with potential. Open up to him and eventually you will click. Then use your seduction force to make him an alpha.

TheRedStoic · 2016-09-17T12:43:22+00:00

Hey, it's still worth going up rpwoman. Trust me, there are women there who've found their way through your exact walk of life. Their advice will be better coming from your side of the praxeology.

Additionally approved rp men do post there when called for. "I'm one of them".

Check them out, check your ego at the door, apply what they say. Good luck.

quicklogaccount · 2016-09-17T14:32:32+00:00

Ok. A lot of stuff you mention there are really mainstream expectations. There's some remarks that I can do here.

The connection, for starters.
You can form two sorts of connections with a guy. In one, he'll protect you and provide for you, and you'll give him children and sex. This is the sort of connection you're looking for, you'll have a healthy relationship.
On the other, he relies on you for emotional support and care. This is the connection you'll form with your children, so, you can't form it with your boyfriend or you'll lose your relationship.
You'll begin with the first kind of bond, you'll offer him the second kind (because if feels better for you), he'll take it (because he's a fool), the first kind of bond will weaken (you'll push for it, the second kind of bond feels better for you) in benefit of the second, you'll be doomed and he'll pop up here for support.
Relationship wise, this is all I can tell you. Watch out. The more comfortable you are, the less drive you'll have. When you notice your drive is lowering, let him know. It shouldn't happen. Maybe address him to Married RP really early on (not to TRP, because he'll be a noob, naive, and we might convince him you're a whore and he should dump you if he writes something that smells like it. Don't take it badly, we tell noobs not to take chances).
Maybe some lines, such as "You're the guy, I'm the girl. You're not entitled to being girly" (add humor so it doesn't sound harsh) might help. Tell him it's not cool that he acts clingy or insecure, you'll be clingy for the both of you.
By the way, get a guy who has at least three times the number of ex partners you have. You're on 1, he should be on 3 at least.

About your guy, he'll be one of the guys that hit on you. Pick one of the guys that makes you want sex and don't just go sucking and fucking, no matter that you want it, no matter that you want it.
After you have established you're attracted, talk a bit more, see if you click on some aspects besides making out, and lay your expectations about a relationship before sex. If he comes here and asks, we'll tell him he should look for easier girls because there are. One of these guys won't come here and ask, or won't hear us though.
Watch out for red flags (check it out with the women, I don't look for douchebag's redflags in guys) and, if a guy doesn't have them and thinks you're worth the hassle, I suppose that's as good as I can think of.

GC0W30 · 2016-09-17T15:17:10+00:00

Do you want a provider husband and kids at some point, or do you want a career, adventures, and lots of kick-ass sex with lots of guys?

Our advice changes depending on your answer.

If you want a husband and kids, guard your pussy carefully as having sex with more than a handful of men ruins your ability to fall in love.

Don't be too successful financially if you want kids. Men don't want rich women for the right reasons. Don't turn into a bitch. Don't embrace feminism or go to grad school. Focus on getting and staying hot. Getting fat or out of shape is emotional abuse of your husband which will break your marriage and keep your kids from having a supportive environment. An alpha husband will divorce you or withdraw love if you don't appreciate him and respect him by keeping your body banging.

Or, if you want a kick-ass career, have no interest in kids and want to have lots of travel and torrid affairs with all kinds of exotic lovers... knock yourself out. Stay safe, use condoms to stem the risk of disease, don't rely on BC pills though, get an IUD or an implant, etc.

These two paths are not compatible. Don't kid yourself.

only show sexual interest in me

Don't assume that guys who ACT like they only have sexual interest don't have other interest in you. In early stages of seduction I keep things conversational and fun, but overtly sexual. My body language and discussion topics will remind you every 10 minutes that I desire you sexually. At the same time, I AM open to a caring relationship that includes more than just sex, with the right woman.

I keep "horny bastard" armor on to avoid abuse by gold-diggers OR women who want comfort and have no sincere interest in my love.

Sucks, but I gotta' do it. I want true love like in the story books, but those were a lie.

I_like_rick_n_morty · 2016-09-17T15:27:19+00:00

Are you fat? Fat girls will get hit on and get sex but won't get commitment which is what you are after. If you are after commitment you have to be a high caliber woman worthy of that commitment.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2016-09-17T15:26:00+00:00

So it seems your fear is "I want love but I'm afraid I will only be used for sex." Understandable, and well, yeah, on your side of the Gender Gap, that would be a problem. It seems to me that you have three options:

A. Find an "Alpha-Provider" type.

B. Find an "Alpha" and be willing to share.

C. Find a Greater Beta and learn how to Get Your Captain To Lead (which RPW is all about).

So your action items are:

A. Do everything you can to improve your appearance, i.e. get/stay fit, grow your hair out long, develop a feminine style of dress. Keep it more natural and less "processed."

B. Lower your expectations. By that I mean, don't worry if he's not incredibly handsome. For you, the ONLY thing that matters is his character.

C. Focus on being sunny and feminine. Men will remove themselves from female negativity. All that "be sassy!" and "sarcasm as flirting" BS is exactly that, BS, and is a great way to wake up one day at 35, alone, in a one-bedroom apartment with 15 cats. Basically, you can take this list and Do the OPPOSITE of what is states.

D. Learn to cook. This will set you off from your peer group. A girl who can legitimately cook is head and shoulders above every other millenial chick there is. Put a pot on a stove, every day, and eventually a man will start showing up to that pot at 6pm. (Hat Tip: Chris Rock). Plus, while you're waiting for Mr. Right, you will be able to enjoy delicious meals.

E. Learn to identify the type of guy that you are going to be happy with. So I'd suggest at least 5 years older and established/successful. Make clear from the beginning that you want a "male led" relationship.

Good luck.

thrml · 2016-09-17T11:28:26+00:00

I need an emotional connection if I want to be sexually involved with a guy.

Men don't. My suggestion is to learn to enjoy sex for the physical act that it is.

Title	TRP/Dating vs Daddy Issues?
Author	y00nicorn
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Date	September 17, 2016 8:29 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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