What are your thoughts on being a "sugar daddy"?

CainPrice · 2018-11-05T00:12:48+00:00

Sex isn't about the orgasm. It's about the validation. When you know that the woman you're fucking is just friction for your dick - essentially a $1000 hand - and you're not actually fuckable, you'll feel empty inside. It's essentially just overpriced live-action porn. Not real sex.

The Red Pill isn't a guide on how to get orgasms. If you want orgasms, use your hand.

It isn't a guide on how to get sexual intercourse. Not directly, anyway. If you want sex, pay a prostitute.

It's a guide for sexual strategy. How to become the kind of guy women want to have sex with and how to capitalize on that.

horologist2018 · 2018-11-04T23:43:58+00:00

I understand your predicament. I can assure you Seeking will not be good for you. My ex (who I'm still friends with) go on there, I help her bait guys, and she gets paid out the ass (10/10).

You will get little to no fulfillment from these girls. They are beyond hypergamy. If you want to fuck high priced gorgeous hookers, then it's going to be for you. But past that, it's just not worth it.

As a side note, for that whole mess: The girls on there are in this odd state of mind where many of them think they can get paid for their looks (because they can), yet still maintain the bitchy attitude that they don't owe you anything. So essentially you get yourself into this situation where you're paying a girl, and even still she will withhold sex/not follow through.

Will you likely fuck some hot ass 18-22 year old girls? Yes definitely. Is that alone going to be worth it for you? Maybe. Just keep in mind that those girls are all fucked up in their own way, and no matter how gorgeous they are, or friendly they are, they are not (I repeat, not) LTR material.

I know you're rich, millionaire, etc. So $90 a month on Seeking, plus paying some hot ass 20 year old girl is simply nothing to you. Based on that, I don't see a problem with paying for your fantasy.

However (Big however...), I am the same age as you, I make significantly less than you (55k a year), yet, for my 31st birthday I had a threesome with an 18 and 19 year old. For Free. So do you have to pay? No. Is it worth it to you? Maybe. Big questions.

My general advice is for people to stay away from sugar babies; but that advice is for people where the money would genuinely be detrimental to their livelihood. If paying some girl $600 is the same to you as buying a cup of coffee is for me, then so be it.

But... You can do it for free, still.

Quaternionz · 2018-11-05T00:59:12+00:00

I have hot 20-22 year old plates from sugar daddy websites. I don’t pay them anything.

They’re easy to pick up because most men on those sites who have to pay for sex are extremely unattractive and/or have mental problems. When the girls see a normal looking attractive dude on there they pounce. The amount of likes and attention I get on those sites is crazy compared to normal dating apps.

Take them out and buy them dinner. Make out with them at some point on the date and then take them home to bang. They’re usually opposed to the idea of taking money from men they find attractive, and they’ll keep seeing you if the dates are fun and the sex is good. More often than not offering them money will actually spoil the relationship. If their initial read on you was as an Alpha then a beta bux move won’t compute.

Stay away from the girls who demand allowances. They’re either hard core gold diggers and aren’t worth your time, or they’re not attracted to you. With lots of girls on there just buying them a cocktail or a meal when you’re out is more than enough.

Don’t do any of that absurd $2,000/month allowance nonsense, for her to just spend however.

I guess you can say that buying her a cocktail or a meal is “paying for sex,” but it’s nothing compared to how much an LTR with marriage and childbearing prospects can drain you financially over a lifetime. And if you can’t afford to buy a girl drinks or dinner then what the fuck are you even doing dating.

cat_magnet · 2018-11-05T00:12:01+00:00

Why do you only get laid a few times a year? Im the same age and similar income and I generally have 3 plates rotating without any issue. Im not overweight and reasonably good looking but not a ripped alpha or anything.

creating_my_life · 2018-11-05T00:36:32+00:00

Would you consider just paying some hot 19 year old $1k/mo

You could afford one hell of a personal trainer and life/dating coach for that budget.

seriously, TRP lays out the roadmap to successfully date. Just execute. it's not that hard.

justathrowaway1424 · 2018-11-05T01:21:14+00:00

12k a year for a 19 year old college girl? All you are doing is reinforcing the belief that women deserve everything and potentially screwing over the next guy in life. Come on man go save it or spend on something useful.

BigBallsJamesHunt · 2018-11-04T23:51:51+00:00

If I want to have an orgasm I can just jerk off, I guess the thing I like about sex is that I know I'm a man that women want to fuck because they like/love me, not my money. And I like the genuine human interactions, when you are a sponsor you are just a consumer and she is the commodity.

Trip-trader · 2018-11-05T02:40:06+00:00

$1000 a month won’t get you twice a week. Maybe twice a month if your lucky. And if the girl fakes it good enough and shows proper affection. It can be just as good as a girlfriend. But that’s usually going to cost you a lot more. All depends on the girl and your chemistry too.

RedSkeller · 2018-11-05T03:21:07+00:00

I’m the same age and make an embarrassing low amount comparatively. I just got laid tonight by a chick who probably shoots fitness porn on the side. I have no interest in the sugar dad lifestyle because it revolves around money. Sure, sex is a transaction but to me it would be incredibly empty to be the guy who pays for shit rather than the guy who is banging her on the side. It’s whatever you can sleep easy with.

alphabachelor · 2018-11-05T04:33:37+00:00

If you're making $250k/year and can only get laid a few times a year on Tinder, you have bigger problems than most men....

gregoire_ · 2018-11-04T23:59:32+00:00

Not a fan. That’s putting a lot of value on the hope that some young broke girl is gonna her cheeks at me once in a while. I’d say just work on your game. You already have the money and the idea of money alone goes a long way. Now just improve the rest of it.

patuloco78 · 2018-11-05T01:38:29+00:00

In the USA you have to pay for sex one way or another, unless the women offer it for free. For that kind of budget go to south east Asia to get the best return of investment

HurricaneHugues · 2018-11-05T04:15:29+00:00

I'd negotiate it down to $700, but that's just me. Btw, what do u do for work?

revisionistnow · 2019-01-13T01:28:48+00:00

For $1k a month I can help you cultivate a lifestyle that will attract more women than you can handle. Paying women for sex/companionship is not going to be full filling. Your young and ballin, it won't take long to get you right. What city are you in?

Johnnybeachboy · 2018-11-04T23:41:15+00:00

No. Soend that money on interesting experiences and you'll meet interesting people. Maybe as a one shot just to see what it's like, but interview her beforehand and get someone interesting or compatible with your interests.

Title	What are your thoughts on being a "sugar daddy"?
Author	WoodenToe
Upvotes	6
Comments	27
Date	November 4, 2018 11:32 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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