What did I do wrong here...

BeeBopJoe · 2019-10-07T17:56:18+00:00

Shes not interested, shes just trying to be nice. Abundance mentality dude, go after other women.

SheriffBart42 · 2019-10-07T18:25:35+00:00

Schedule? WTF was that? She's not a dentist.

moltenw · 2019-10-07T19:00:07+00:00

Why are you making her make the decisions?

Make your own next time. Instead of making her text her schedule, text yours and set something up.

Remember - you don't want to be in the grey zone. You want to be either in or out. If you're in - great! If you're out - also great, you can move on to the next girl. At least you know where you stand, meaning you won't be wasting your time.

Staying in the grey zone is just asking to be put in the orbit.

FilthyStylish · 2019-10-07T18:33:25+00:00

You probably already missed your chance but why didn’t you just ask her to go out with you on a specific day at a specific place and time?

somejerseydude · 2019-10-07T17:59:11+00:00

You still have to lead and take initiative. Asking a girl for her schedule never works unless she’s extremely interested.

Stick to the script “Hey I’m going to X at Y o’clock, you should join me”

KillaJewels · 2019-10-07T18:06:49+00:00

Unless she's very interested, she will not make that first move. The mistake you made is telling her to text you her schedule.

First, that's a big ask of someone you just met; you're getting into personal details of her life, and she doesn't know you're cool yet.

Second, you're making the process more difficult than it should be. This is why you must take the lead and make it simple.

Since you don't know her schedule, this is what I would do: Make a plan for the weekend. Text her that you're gonna do XX (activity) at YY (place) at ZZ (time/day). This way, you show non-neediness because you're planning to do this anyway, with or without her. Also, she does not feel pressured to go. If she's interested and can't make it, she'll let you know when she is free next or even try to reschedule.

Red_Pill_Brotherhood · 2019-10-07T18:52:01+00:00

Nothing you did wrong, she's just not interest. Move on and game other women. Next time "text me tonight"- give her a deadline. This tests her compliance and interest.

frognads · 2019-10-08T09:04:47+00:00

It's just like sales. They're never going to return your message so don't bother. Move on to other girls.

FinancialThanks1 · 2019-10-07T17:54:42+00:00

Text her. You didn’t necessarily do anything wrong, she might have just not been thinking about you since you’ve only met twice. But if she was highly interested she would have texted you

Title	What did I do wrong here...
Author	wonkytonk123
Upvotes	5
Comments	16
Date	October 7, 2019 5:49 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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