What did I do wrong?

INNASKILLZ2K18 · 2019-01-10T14:42:14+00:00

Get out of 'nice Guy' frame.

You want to raise your smv, and that is great, and having courage is great. Good for you.

You want to work on your frame, though, or else you will have a lot of boring convos that don't lead to numbers, or meets.

Work out and integrate a strong frame, of how.you see yourself, and women.

You are a motherfucking man of abundance, a prize, you do not give a fuck, and are outcome independent. Write a list for each of those, and describe how they apply to you. Go big.

Second...write how you currently view women. Ask yourself if that frame is going to help you get your needs met. View them as people to be nice, polite and considerate with? People you should be kind, and treat fairly? People whose approval and vidation you want? People you really really need to fuck? - if any of that is how you see chicks...scrap it. It won't help.

Write out a new frame for women. One where you are the prize, not them. One where you have abundance of fun/women interested. One where you do not give a fuck about them, cuz they just tits and ass begging to be dominated, and one where you qualify THEM to be worthy of your dick.

Change the way you frame yourself...and how you frame them. Start seeing the world how you want.

Then you can work on game...and the interactions will organically be a LOT stronger.

CommonFable · 2019-01-10T13:47:45+00:00

Just keep doing what you’re doin. You will fail a lot, and that is okay.

TheMammothLog · 2019-01-10T13:54:13+00:00

Keep treading the water and see what boundaries you can push with negging, you're clearly very wary of of hurting their feelings/scaring them off. You have the confidence to approach so you're already winning bro. Hopefully see you post a success story one day :)

UEMcGill · 2019-01-10T16:48:29+00:00

I would ask the girl who said go ask the shop keeper for directions, "Where's the [what ever the fuck shes standing in front of]?"

"Duh, they're right here?!?"

"Oh so you do know how to give directions."

Don't take bitches so seriously, even when they want to take themselves seriously.

Olram_Sacul · 2019-01-10T13:52:26+00:00

you did nothing wrong. you tried and that's great. kudos for getting outta your comfort zone and showing some balls

robbiedigital001 · 2019-01-10T13:55:09+00:00

You know yourself what you can improve because you outline it in your post

TheHumbleAfrican · 2019-01-10T16:24:49+00:00

I couldn't finish reading this post. Sorry

RandomlyChosenTitle · 2019-01-10T16:24:57+00:00

Next girl I approached at the minimarket said hey. She instantely tried to turn me off by saying if I wanted to know directions to somewhere I could ask she shop assistant.

These types are a blessing when you're just getting into approaching, even if they don't feel like it at the time. The mindset you quickly capture talking with these types (i.e. "I can say anything I want because I have nothing to lose") is where you eventually want to get with every approach. Just keep working at it.

zevag1 · 2019-01-10T21:40:41+00:00

If you're going to approach people, practice approaching EVERYONE (old people, kids, chicks you don't find attractive, etc.). If you are only approaching because you want to fuck them, they'll see right through you. Approach people that you are genuinely interested in and the conversations will flow a lot more naturally.

SidewaysCircle · 2019-01-10T14:22:56+00:00

Why you talking for 15 minutes at the supermarket and wasting both your time

trpboy123 · 2019-01-10T15:26:13+00:00

Read natural by Richard la Ruina and magic bullets by someone I forgot the name

wobbleelbbow · 2019-01-10T22:25:41+00:00

do NOT ask for personal information (msgnr or number) until you managed to gain proper rapport with her and get her interested. Doesn't matter she has a bf or a husband, just need to gain rapport and make her interested in you. ONLY THEN you can ask for number or anything else.

openoids · 2019-01-10T16:15:22+00:00

I say you are fishing in the wrong pond. Not that there's anything bad about it. If you have reasonable smv, your biggest issue is not having a space where you might have more one on one encounters with people that interest you. Do "meetups" or even online dating or take a class at the community college, etc.

DWS33_ · 2019-01-10T16:18:34+00:00

Lol you didn’t do nothing wrong. you can’t make every shot bro.

Abnull · 2019-01-10T18:06:06+00:00

I would not worry about your SMV. Keep doing what you are doing. Until you gain more confidence, you can't judge your SMV.

Without confidence and a some aggression, you can't express your true SMV.

maxrp · 2019-01-10T18:37:51+00:00

> She told she is married.

Say "Whats that got to do with just being friends?"

> What do you guys think, and what do you think I did wrong?

maybe try in a different store? the girls there might be friendly and single?

319Skew · 2019-01-10T20:18:35+00:00

Kudos on taking the effort.

You'll fail a lot. Even the best pick up artists still have failure so you'll never be perfect but here's somethings that I noticed.

Here's what I find works for me. Feel free to take whatever you'd like.

Get into the frame that you're a handsome, charming, successful guy and that even though you don't have a ton going for you at the moment, you're the next <insert celebrity> in the making. This person is being privileged to be in your world.

Carry a IDGAF attitude as you approach. You can't do anything wrong. Like you could (don't) start the conversation about concentration camps and if she walks away then fuck her. The opening really doesn't matter that much. It's the tone, frame, and your ability to calibrate that's important.

Calibration happens over time and with many, many, many failures. You start to pick up subtle cues; body language is key. Yours AND hers. Look at videos that help you pick up on subtle movements (leg position, hand movements, neck, eyes, choice of words etc.)

Try to make it like you're in the middle of something. If you're spending 15 min talking to someone it just gets weird since it just feels like an interview. Push and pull and venue change as much as you can. Walk with her, chat her up, laugh and try to get a rise out of positive emotions.

Always keep the frame man/woman with a subtle sexual undertone. Kino as needed. This is where the calibration is key. If you try to kino with someone that's not interested it comes across very creepy. If you calibrate and she's into it then try to escalate.

Always gradually push for more. If she's laughing, try to touch her arm (without being blunt about it), if she's OK with that get closer, touch hair, cheeks, etc. If she pulls back then you pull back and start from a step back. If she's really into it then pull back occasionally.

Always keep your SMV higher than yesterday and constantly practice. Your friends should be making fun of how you're always a flirt and any female you know should know you as a 'fuck boy, player, slut, bad boy, etc.'

Best of Luck

aleksa_ivkovic · 2019-01-10T20:23:18+00:00

AWALT, next her

Desperate_Maybe · 2019-01-10T21:08:51+00:00

sounds like your spam approaching and being needy/beta. also what you did wrong? probably not chad enough. also a lot of times it just doesnt work out... 1 was married, the other was probably creeped out or something lol

A_solo_tripper · 2019-01-10T17:41:51+00:00

Good job approaching. You only did two approaches. Even though it sounds like day game. In my experience, there aren't too many good looking girls to approach in the day time. One was married and one wasn't interested. You need to approach many more, especially in daytime/ gay game.

Keep going. You don't have enough field experience/ information from that day to make an informed decision. Once you get around 30-50 approaches, you will begin to SLIGHTLY adjust your style.

There is nothing groundbreaking one can do imo besides approaching and trying to be your best HONEST self.

Title	What did I do wrong?
Author	holykeeper24
Upvotes	29
Comments	29
Date	January 10, 2019 1:35 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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