What do highly efficient people do with personal internal pain?

2019-12-25T03:02:39+00:00

Sometimes it goes away, sometimes it never does. Alot of people try to work enough that they don’t have time to think about it (most productive way to keep the thoughts away anyways).

Nastynatee · 2019-12-25T06:09:00+00:00

It never goes away per say, it rather dulls and fades into the background where other things come to the front as priority (thought wise). Ur ok man. Been thru many really damaging things and this is the way it alwsys works. It's just emotion divided by time

RedAgeist · 2019-12-25T03:39:18+00:00

Just my opinion, try shrooms. I used psychedelics to recover from addictions, emotional trauma, OCD and childhood issues. While I'm not 100%, I am living a better life. It's a therapeutic use, not a party thing.

Otherwise I'd suggest therapy. What you resist dealing with, persists.

Good luck bro

KrissVectorEOC · 2019-12-25T03:54:10+00:00

No, you haven't read everything that the red pill has to offer. I understand what you mean though. Memories of a trauma will fade with time but emotions in the moment won't really go away. It's moreso how you take a step back and analyze why you're feeling that particular emotion. Think of it as a sort of gauge or sensor going off in the machine that is your body, indicating to you something worth taking a closer look at.

Your mindset in regards to why you are feeling that emotion then guides that emotional energy towards something more fruitful to your goals.

For example, a lost loved one. Sadness in losing them is hard. Nothing can change that. A memory of them not there bubbling up can detract you from the present moment and sink you deep. But, sometimes thinking about how happy you were with them, what you learned from them, them living on through your actions, behaviors, can, in a way, immortalize their memory through you.

This kind of emotional reflection can help guide all emotions as both 'good' and 'bad' ones will sidetrack one's goals or blind them to their present.

You ultimately choose how much something can affect your mind. It's something that if well defended, no one can take away from you, no matter how bad an external event or someone's words appear to be. This starts off with a lot of self reflection as well. Things in Nature, such as our emotions, won't ever go away, but, we were also given all the tools to make it what we wish and to prepare for it.

Like detecting an incoming barometric pressure drop from a storm, a sensor still go off to alert you , but, hey, you've built a shelter in your mind to continue doing what you do in your daily life so that the typical daily weather (good or bad), still there in the background, doesn't do you from going to work, the gym, having fun at home, etc.

strongsovereign · 2019-12-25T11:07:59+00:00

Different people manage it in different ways, depending upon their strengths and weaknesses. Majority of us experience traumas, Lifting and Nutrition certainly help in its release, writing and crying also aid in that untying.

Lifting and nutrition are probably the most potent from my experience. Find mentors and educate yourself, read great books and write.

ThinSpiritual · 2019-12-25T06:58:31+00:00

Some mental gymnastics that I use to control my monkey brain:

- First is to be aware and recognize when thoughts appear in my head. You can help yourself visualize by imagining watching yourself from a third-person POV. You're holding a banner, whatever you're thinking becomes words written on the banner. Now you see your thoughts (YMMV).

- Understand that no matter how negative it is, it's just a thought. While I cannot control what I think, the though is still not ME.

- Speak to my thought either in my head or aloud: "Thank you for reminding me" when I think of something bad. This is me acknowledging the presence of my thought, but also acknowledging that I can think differently than what it tells me to. Why thank it? Because it's evolution psychology, "fight or flight" has helped my ancestors to survive, now my thought is cautioning me of bad things, so I thank it.

- When you think of something bad, for example, if you had done a shitty job at work and you're worried you'll get fired, vocalize this phrase first before the thought "I have a thought, I think I'm gonna get fired."

- Understand that emotions can trigger physical reactions. You can literally feel sensations in your body when you are drowned by negative thoughts (ie. blood pressure increase when one feels intense anger; again, it's fight or flight). Face it, don't run away. Attach reality to thoughts --> touch something, divert your attention to feeling the texture of that objection; deep breathes, feel the air entering your lungs, etc. Do anything physical.

There're way more techniques that you can use, these are just examples to show that you can observe your own thoughts and separate imagination from reality (typically our brain can't separate the two -- that's why visualization techniques work).

All these things are not meant for killing your thoughts immediately or to make you happy quickly, they serve to let you see the nature of your thoughts. They are thoughts, that's all. Acknowledge them, thank them, then go about doing whatever you need to do in real life. Pain will go away slowly.

2019-12-25T14:05:36+00:00

Rationalize.

There's shit to do, and the pain's getting in the way.

Find a way to approach it logically and internalize it.

2019-12-25T17:51:05+00:00

Turn it into strength. Familiarize yourself with the concept of Amor Fati.

king_smirker · 2019-12-25T18:35:39+00:00

Psychotherapy trauma-oriented EMDR

kingofclubsmorde · 2019-12-26T14:53:20+00:00

I suggest you to introduce yourself to spirituality to understand who YOU really are as a human being. Helped me a lot to fight my traumas and to find a perfect balance in life.

Of course this requires a lot of reading about the subject to find inner harmony. If you don't like reading and absorb the useful information, that's just your ego not wanting to get suppressed.

Cody_Silver · 2019-12-25T03:46:14+00:00

I ‘free style’ meditate daily for 15 minutes and let my brain think about whatever it wants. I also do stretchy yoga for 15 minutes. I take kava kava and valerean root. All suggested by a therapist. I went from only being able to sleep 3 hours a night to 6 or 7.5 hours a night. Never goes away, but this helps me manage.

TRP got me from 0 hours to 3 hours a night.

Title	What do highly efficient people do with personal internal pain?
Author	EnthusiasticJohnny
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Date	December 25, 2019 2:55 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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