What is a frame ?

M3_Drifter · 2015-08-26T21:45:08+00:00

"Frame of mind". The way you see the world and react to it, more or less.

Whisper · 2015-08-26T22:41:31+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/3iix64/frame/

BakingShoe · 2015-08-26T21:01:08+00:00

Read the sidebar man. This is basic stuff. Short explanation, don't lose your cool. (Obviously alot more to it than that but I'll leave you to discover that)

throw_em_all · 2015-08-26T22:18:21+00:00

Frame is the image of yourself that you present to people, but in reality to me is the type of man you are working to be, from inner things like personality and attitude to outer things like body, money and status.

Breaking or losing frame is when either people or situations push you enough that you show that you're not what you were showing them, thus failing shit tests is one of the most common ways to show that you're actually a bitch hiding behind an alpha costume, or breaking frame.

648262 · 2015-08-26T22:48:53+00:00

Frame is your idea of yourself, your norms and rules of life. Your worldview in a way.

As an example: you're meeting your girlfriend after work and you're going out to eat - both can make suggestions as to where you would like to eat, but the one who makes the decision, and the other person follows; that's the one with the power. And that just happens to be the persons frame the two of you are in.

If you see yourself as the one with most power in a relationship then that is part of your frame. When we tell you to not break your frame on such matters; it means stand your ground.

To control a situation it is better to let people come into your frame/worldview. That means they adapt to you, and you hold the power.

That's why it's best not to ask "where do you want to eat?", but rather say "let's go to chotskies - I love their burgers!". That way you don't give them any other option other than enter your frame, or create a situation.

If there are too many situations you'll have a problem on your hands - and who the hell got time for that?

stickfiguresk · 2015-08-26T22:56:24+00:00

Think of your frame as a door way people have to maneuver through to interact with you. For instance, for a hoe to be allowed in your home, she needs to act right and be DTF. For your friend to be able to eat lunch with you, he needs to not fart around you. For that stranger to get the time of day from you, he needs to be polite. For your dog to get a treat, he needs to do what you want him to. Otherwise, you deprive them of the privilege of your company/attention. If they don't accommodate your frame, you either walk away, or for the hoe in your house, you kick her out.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2015-08-27T02:38:40+00:00

Think of 'frame' as your 'reality'. Girls have 'frame' also, but your frame needs to be stronger than their frame.

Ex.1 Killing One Bird With Two Stones. I am trying to bang a 24 year old I just met, b/c she's way hot. She's been pretty cool about things, but last week she was a moody little bitch. I deflected shit test after shit test and eventually she ran up the "I'm kidding!" white flag. So I said, "You weren't kidding. You were testing me to see if I'm 'worthy' enough for you to give your pussy to....which we both know I am." Her: Gobsmacked.

She was simultaneously incredulous that I called her out so openly, but was also moist in the panties about it. I'm sure she went home and thought about how I had treated her, while she flicked her bean. At this point it's not if I'm going to fuck her but when.

Ex.2 Double The Pleasure, Double The Fun. I formerly dated two roommates. They wanted me to choose between them (always a fucking mistake) and I said "I want you both" and stuck to my guns. Three days later, they had negotiated out how that was going to work (this was b/w themselves) and then broke the news to me that they were down for it.

Ex. 3 She's So Cold Remember that "office temperature is sexist" bullshit? I'm visiting an office on business this week. Two of the women I was in a meeting with this morning were talking about it and one referenced it to me, lightly breaking my balls. So I looked at them and said "I'm sure it's plenty warm in the kitchen, which is where you two belong." The older one (like late 50s) LOL'd and the younger one smiled. So far, no conversations with HR.

ManNoob · 2015-08-27T11:20:41+00:00

This doesn't really answer your question, but I know I am losing frame anytime I feel the need to explain or justify myself. Just being aware of this urge and not acting on it helps me to appear externally confident even though internally I feel anxious. This is how I interpret "holding frame".

Abreseyes · 2015-08-27T20:07:29+00:00

Think of it like looking at the world through a picture frame , like you make a joke and someone acts offended.Their frame is that you were offensive and should apologise.Your frame is that they're being salty.

So you can either bend to their frame and apologise , how does that make you look?

Or you can stick to your frame and have further fun with the situation at their expense , this is your frame you don't bend , it's iron.

abdada · 2015-08-26T21:00:33+00:00

To me, frame means having a goal and be heading towards it.

When you lose frame, you start focusing on someone else's destination and even assisting them in getting there.

TheBadGod · 2015-08-26T21:28:49+00:00

Like a door frame; Don't be wibbly-wobbly or the house could collapse.

The idea is that folks are gonna bump into you or try to tear you apart, as is the nature of life. It's your responsibility to be hard and unyielding because you're what's keeping things stable.

When you're "tested," it's like a measure of your integrity.

So yeah. Basically, keep your cool.

Title	What is a frame ?
Author	4juice
Upvotes	2
Comments	17
Date	August 26, 2015 8:55 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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