What to do after flake

Fusionnn · 2021-02-01T13:51:36+00:00

hit her with the "I'll let you know" and keep her on the back burner

benhurensohn · 2021-02-01T06:27:31+00:00

Whatever you want, dude. Be a man, pick up the phone and give her a call. Tell her "what's up", do a little chit chat, and set up a midweek date. I rarely give a new chick a Primetime time slot. I'll keep these for more established plates.

cheesypongas · 2021-02-01T10:27:28+00:00

Your prospect rescheduled, which is a good sign tbf, but don’t schedule on a Saturday

MattyAnon · 2021-02-01T16:36:26+00:00

New chick texted me next morning saying she had a few too many and offered to meet up next Saturday. Problem is I have a date lined up with some other new chick Saturday

This is "trickle truth"...... ie lying.

The "few too many" is true, but that likely happened after 6pm.

What happened is she made other plans with you as a backup option.

Flaking with no text/info/update is a complete dealbreaker for me...... I'd say "no thanks" and leave it at that.

But if you're happy to meet and try to bang: tell her "no problem, these things happen, but I'm busy Saturday".

If she tries to rearrange again, make it so you don't care if she flakes again..... ie meet her where you are anyway and don't be afraid to cancel on her if something comes up.

But know this: she will never be a different person. She will always be someone who thinks it's ok to flake without letting the other person know.

mrmaskfawkes · 2021-02-01T06:33:06+00:00

I prefer two chances than three. Once can be a mistake, twice is a sign. Id tell her not Saturday and you walkway have something to do. She's in the back foot because she's asking. So make it another week or the next time she's available. Then next her if she flakes twice. You gave her a shot and its on her, but general advice when you next. Don't be rude or douche. Just politely let them say "hey this seems not to be working" or however, sometimes that nets you a return plate later. Do go on the date with the other plate on saturday.

AuberyBitoni · 2021-02-01T11:21:38+00:00

I'd tell her you're busy Saturday and propose another day when you're free. She flaked on your once, shit happens. But now you put her on the backburner. She fucked up so she is the one who has to make an effort.

If she can't do that, next her.

scissor_me_timbers00 · 2021-02-01T22:35:40+00:00

So I’m of the opinion that rather than just soft nexting and letting all these fish go, you should squeeze all the juice out of each contact/plate you have until it breaks. Keep taking your shot and attempting to move things forward until it’s just a fried contact. Who cares what she thinks. This is in the interest of getting thru the learning curve and keeping you in a mode of the hunter.

In your situation I see no reason to drop this contact. Just ask if her she’s free another day because you’ve got something lined up Saturday. You have to understand that women can’t help themselves but go with their whims, so her whole drinking too much the previous Saturday doesn’t mean she’s not interested in you. If we want pussy we have to have some flexibility with women’s whims. Not too much, but some. Some of the best pussy I’ve had was because I maintained some flexibility w a woman, and it paid off.

linkofinsanity19 · 2021-02-01T21:44:10+00:00

Only offer her the option to come to you and to let you know X minutes before she arrives so that you don't waste your time. Have something or someone to do if she doesn't show. Apart from that, next her.

Title	What to do after flake
Author	kncrew
Upvotes	1
Comments	17
Date	February 1, 2021 6:17 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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