When you first start dating, should you let her know what you want?

rad_dynamic · 2019-01-15T04:17:55+00:00

Tell them you like to move slowly but nothing is off the table in the future. And leave it at that. Any more questions yield the same answer.

This way she is constantly thinking how she can prove herself to you, not the other way around.

If you feel bad for "leading women on" then you need to man the fuck up. Men control the relationship status, not women. "Leading a women on" is impossible. If the women was hot enough, stable enough and not a slut, you wouldn't lead her on. It is her fault you fucked her and got bored.

FeralRed · 2019-01-15T04:18:48+00:00

Women speak, men do. AKA acta non verba.

Stop acting like a woman.

ImplodedVeggies · 2019-01-15T04:15:59+00:00

Let her know when she asks

MrFiles · 2019-01-15T04:50:55+00:00

Some of these guys seem confused. Yes you need to let her know your intentions so she knows where she stands then act accordingly

SICFJC · 2019-01-15T09:45:46+00:00

Yeah but if you're trying to fuck and you tell her that 99.9999999 percent of women leave because ASD and feeling used.

furcryingoutloud · 2019-01-15T06:11:56+00:00

When you speak to a woman, this is what she hears. Words are hard. Blah, blah, blah, blah. When she speaks, she tries to sound out words that she thinks you want to hear. Blah, blah, blah, blah.

So, lots of talking, take none of it serious. So the correct answer to your question, she doesn't give a fuck about what you have to tell her. She is only gauging you on your actions. Which is what you should be doing as well.

AllTay · 2019-01-15T04:15:33+00:00

Show her through your actions.

INNASKILLZ2K18 · 2019-01-15T05:24:03+00:00

You set it by action. Then when she asks, if she does...'I like what we are now, and I move slowly. In the future, nothing is out of the question'

If she gets serious on 'the LTR talk'...'if you prove to be someone I would LTR, then I will definitely consider it'

Leave it a open ended, but dangle the carrot.

throwitdownman · 2019-01-15T07:19:25+00:00

Never be the one who brings it up, women tend to ask ‘so what are we’ quite quickly. Just be patient.

When she does ask, I personally don’t like to answer (AA, deflect, etc). But it’ll get to a point where she’ll overtly ask for a clear answer (near your turn’s end).

Then, you can say what you want. Just don’t be autistic.

bigfatdubsack · 2019-01-15T07:24:13+00:00

Always let that hoe know!!

NeuroBoss31 · 2019-01-15T08:12:27+00:00

"truth and time tells all"

Kpwn88 · 2019-01-15T15:36:43+00:00

The Talk

Bruchibre · 2019-01-15T06:47:21+00:00

I would never tell by myself, if she doesn't ask for 3 years I will not tell for 3 years. Usually girls ask this kind of stuff, of course if she asks you have to say something. If she asks I'd say something like "I don't know yet, let's see where this goes" or "I like you I'd like to know you" depending on how interested I am.

rambler429 · 2019-01-15T05:04:39+00:00

"We'll see"

throwawaybpdnpd · 2019-01-15T07:04:23+00:00

Only if she asks, never start it

Title	When you first start dating, should you let her know what you want?
Author	nu121x
Upvotes	20
Comments	18
Date	January 15, 2019 4:07 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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