I wanted your opinion on this because the girls could not give me any good advice and I see boys (bluepilled ones) getting advice from women on various forums, so I thought I might try to do the same and see if it works and if you can be kind enough to give me some advice. Some of you will say I am 'looking for attention', but actually I really value your opinion. It's an anon forum anyway, what kind of validation would that be?

I am 23, will turn 24 soon, and I am thin, take care of myself etc. I was very focused on schoolwork and have not ridden what you call the 'cock carousel' because I have had only one LTR/pseudo sexual experience.

My ex was very weird because he was very religious yet into BDSM stuff. These two things conflicted in a sort of hilarious way and he rationalised it all by deciding he would not have intercourse before marriage - but would do other stuff.

So one year and a half of relationship he fingered me (so I am not a virgin anymore) and we did oral but we never had intercourse. So I am not a virgin, but I have not had intercourse. The main reason why the relationship failed was because I was completely nauseated by the whole BDSM thing, and would not let him do humiliating things to me. He also wanted nude pics which I would NEVER give to anyone. So he was too strange and geared towards his fetishes and I just ended it.

I want a LTR or a marriage material guy before I 'hit the wall' and I would like some advice on what sort of behaviour I should adopt? I think one of my main problems is this 'submission' thing I keep reading around here. How do you mean? Because I would never let a man take advantage of me aka have sex with him on the first date or indeed after a couple of dates. That's out of the question. I would see it as a sign of disrespect and an attempt to use me as a sex toy.

I want to respect the man I am with. I don't want to change his personality or manipulate him, but I expect the same treatment. I have also read people here saying how a woman 'can be changed' if you influence her. That's not me. If a man tells me his opinion on X subject and I disagree, I say so. I don't brainwash him with my ideas and boss him around, obviously, but I don't let him do that to me either.

Women have advised me to 'act innocent and wide-eyed.' But it just makes me feel really nauseated to do so because first of all it's lying, and the lie will come to the surface in a LTR, so he is just temporarily falling for someone who does not exist. Secondly, I won't fake 'innocence' for the same reason why I don't send nudes or ride the CC or have sex immediately: I have self-respect. I give respect too, but I expect it in return and want to be treated like a partner, an equal, an adult. Basically a 50/50 relationship.

I also sort of dress mature-ish for my age (a business suit with a skirt over casual clothing, NEVER jeans etc.), so you get the drill: selling him Alice in Wonderland would not be believable and would mean lying to him and manipulating him and it would be wrong and ultimately bad for us both.

Can you give me any tips on how to act in a way that most men won't think as a super turnoff (if indeed 'submission' is what they want), but which also makes me keep my dignity? Because that's the most important thing for me, and not up for negotiation.

So I can get behind not being a screaming bitch, but if 'femininity' means giving up control over myself I cannot do it. And it would be bad for us both to fake it.