Why do I feel like I constantly need to interact with women in order to feel validated and happy?

YtBlue · 2020-11-15T06:08:18+00:00

You don't love yourself. Trying to measure up to an unobtainable ideal. You got the actions to pick up girls like a PUA but failed the inner game required to succeed at life and women.

alex_de_tampa · 2020-11-15T04:21:11+00:00

Learn to enjoy your own company. Just have a take it or leave it mentality. I could have coffee at this café alone or I could invite a women and receive equal enjoyment from both experiences. Maybe even more alone.

AngloWolf · 2020-11-15T05:03:46+00:00

I understand where you're coming from. Having an abundance of plates competing for your attention and commitment is definitely validating.

If the source of validation from women is the biggest slice of the 'fulfilment pie' in your life however, then those other areas need work.

Consider working more on your physique or finances. You may not have a hobby that you find satisfying and rewarding or maybe you need to hang out with the bros more regularly.

At the end of the day, feeling desired by women is providing you with positive reinforcement that other areas of your life aren't.

comcain · 2020-11-15T06:14:00+00:00

Your time is all you have, really. Use it wisely.

magaforlife11 · 2020-11-15T08:18:37+00:00

What else do you have in your life?

For me I have my career, my hobbies, traveling, working out, my bros and my family.

If I don’t have women then my time is spent consumed with all of that

Anitaliandude · 2020-11-15T15:54:49+00:00

Evolutionarily speaking, you being alive has the sole purpose to produce more offspring. To do this you need a woman. More women fucked/enticed = More "hey I'm good at life" feeling.

onpuzzle · 2020-11-15T15:58:50+00:00

Watch this video G

https://youtu.be/zkdGsOKaDY4

2020-11-15T16:23:57+00:00

I feel mostly the same way, like I could be excelling at everything but if there is not a woman I see on the usual, I feel like life's hell. I think this comes from my hopeless romantic thoughts when I was younger. Might give a try to what you're doing right now. Maybe for good.

Tousen71 · 2020-11-15T18:59:34+00:00

I was like this until i turned 30. Then everything sort of clicked. I looked back and realized how much time I had spent focusing on chasing pussy, fucking women, not pursuing my own goals, how many opportunities (and money) I squandered in order to maintain a relationship (a plate), etc. And I recognized that if I kept doing that same shit, my life would be pretty hollow in another 10 years.

At some point, you'll recognize there are just more important things than pussy. Once you hit that moment, going without women and focusing on your goals will be simple. You'll just recognize that women are a distraction.

There will ALWAYS be hot girls you want to fuck. It's hard to ignore that wiring BUT you'll eventually hit a point where the energy required to chase just isn't worth it. And you'll be fine letting women chase you...or not.

throw-away-1709 · 2020-11-15T06:37:06+00:00

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psypD · 2020-11-15T07:46:49+00:00

Because you are dumb.

Title	Why do I feel like I constantly need to interact with women in order to feel validated and happy?
Author	DetroitGangster
Upvotes	18
Comments	26
Date	November 15, 2020 4:15 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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