Why does every relationship that ends, end up with the girl detesting me?

namesha · 2017-04-07T18:56:15+00:00

Because you're an asshole. You're online asking a bunch of virgins for relationship help. The red pill shit is going to lead all of these people into a lifetime of failed relationships. These fools think being some macho badass is what women want. No they want the same things other humans want in a relationship. Kindness (not ass kissing) love and understanding (again not white-night ass kissing). Look at your comment history. You're obviously frustrated and hiding behind a wall of machismo and false bravado. Stop it already. Your comment history speaks volumes that inside you're a frustrated scrared kid (clue everyone is) so you need to work on growing as a person and leave the red-pill shit behind. None of these people are going to have this philosophy work for them Women will not be with any of these people for long when they meet someone who isn't trying to follow some dumb formula for continuing a relationship. You ever wonder why girls fawn over older men? You ever wonder how it's possible when older men are not physically adept as the younguns? It's because older guys aren't the grunting bucks that everyone here aspire to be. You guys are going in the complete wrong direction. Frankly I took the woman I've been with for the last 12 years from a overly-macho, super-handsome dickbag. So many people wondered how. Did I have a 3 foot dick? No I treated her like an equal and a human. That's the simple secret lad. Wow her with how great of a dude you are not how big your muscles are or the car you drive or how authoritative you are. You can be those things to the rest of the world but you have to treat your woman differently. When she sees you handle your business like a man but are sweet, kind and gentle with her? Dude she'll never want to be with anyone else. Worked for me and I wish someone had shown me how to treat women when I was younger but I didn't get it. Forget these idiots and do what I say and see if your relationship problems don't change.

Glennus626 · 2017-02-21T19:45:50+00:00

Once you sense the relationship is running out of steam, set up a situation where you slam her at her place, play her out for anal then afterwards say you need to go clean up but actually lock the bathroom door from the inside and sneak out the bathroom window, delete and block on all social media and hard ghost.

quicklogaccount · 2017-02-21T20:00:46+00:00

If it is that recurrent, there's something wrong on your approach.
Are you holding the women accountable for the break ups?
Women hate to be held accountable. If you do, you'll put the little rodent to spin its wheel, and hating you solves the deal.

Don't be amazed by your friends having a civil relationship with their exes though. Women have an easy time with ends if attraction is gone, exceptions granted when it's also breaking grandiose plans of big trips, weddings or housing.

Kalidane · 2017-02-21T21:20:57+00:00

Why do you think they detest you?

I've encountered just one ex after breakup. Do you live in a village of 80?

lePoet24 · 2017-02-21T19:58:40+00:00

Dude me too lol.. always starts off great. Then bam.

my_sfw_alias · 2017-02-21T20:02:42+00:00

Demonstrate value Engage physically Nurturing dependance Neglect emotionally Instill hope Separate Entirely

You now have her undying love.

savagedealer · 2017-02-21T20:17:02+00:00

Who fucken cares what they think are you fucking their pussy or their opinions ?

walawalawa · 2017-02-22T00:10:09+00:00

I have that and in several cases it has to do with my choice of woman...

In my latest situation, I never put up with her crap. I threatened to walk out a few times over: 1) her meeting up for dinner with a friend of mine--she begged me not to go claiming she'd LJBF'd him 2) she suddenly stopped putting out---I said no need for us to be in touch if we're not going to fuck...she stopped playing around 3) started acting out...leaving a New Year's eve party I was hosting without saying bye...later claiming she was pissed I hadn't paid enough attention to her.. Finally she walked out after a massive text blow out where she called me all sorts of names and ended with "I'm out" me: 'k'. THen more from her...I never replied...that was 6 weeks ago. She's sent back my gifts, deleted me from social media and then hovered around me at a party...

So...to sum up, in my situation, I held my frame, I called her out on her crap, I made my life a priority and when she walked out I said "k"...and moved on.

Yah, of course i'm hurting...who wouldn't be. But why does she hate me? Because I didn't give in to her tantrums.

You've got to stop comparing yourself to other guys and their situations. You don't know their dynamic.

If you held your frame the girl will be angry because she still has feelings for you. Girls act out...they don't think things through. They break up and then blame YOU for the break up.

You have to just accept that All Women Are Like That...and if you hold your frame, keep moving forward, stop worrying about it.

oldredder · 2017-02-22T07:17:55+00:00

It's like this: the woman detests a lot of men already and if you are giving her free shit and/or a good dicking, she'll act like she doesn't detest you but she already does. If the money and/or dicking stops or she finds more money/more dicks elsewhere she has no reason to pretend so now she "detests you" but she already did.

The only time I found this wasn't the case is when the woman genuinely liked something about me that wasn't sex, or wasn't money, or knew I wouldn't be a dick about sex in the future so that door stayed open a while.

She's the fuckup, usually, not the man.

beachbbqlover · 2017-02-22T15:02:33+00:00

I'll bet it's instinctual and programmatic on some level, for both genders.

AFPJ · 2017-02-21T19:58:57+00:00

every time it ends no matter what I do, the woman ends up hating my fucking guts.

To be able to paint themselves as victims to others, women first mindfuck themselves into full absolution of guilt, fault & any other flaw. OF COURSE her Ex was abusive / an asshole / manipulative / a druggie / hit her all the time, 24 / 7!

When was the last time you talked to a woman who had anything nice to say about her EX?

At first, I thought it had something to do with the fact women don't actually love men. But I see my friends able to talk to their exes after they break up. For me they completely leave my life, but they also want to harm me in

Yeah, odds are your friends are guys (who the women left). If it's ANYTHING but that, you're always BAD.

Because you have to be. You left the perfect little princess, so of course you are [insert label here].

Title	Why does every relationship that ends, end up with the girl detesting me?
Author	pleasehelpkpopme
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Comments	30
Date	February 21, 2017 7:41 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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