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Will guys hate me for being anxious/frigid during sex? I haven't had it and it & as a 21 year old i'm really scared of being bad at it compared to other girls

onaromanholiday
June 18, 2017
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Title Will guys hate me for being anxious/frigid during sex? I haven't had it and it & as a 21 year old i'm really scared of being bad at it compared to other girls
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onaromanholiday
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Comments 31
Date June 18, 2017 10:58 PM UTC
(9 years ago)
Subreddit Posted in /r/askTRP
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/6i2n5f/will_guys_hate_me_for_being_anxiousfrigid_during/
Archive Link https://theredarchive.com/r/askTRP/will-guys-hate-me-for-being-anxiousfrigid-during.92840
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how do you land alpha guys?

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August 31, 2017
/r/RedPillWomen

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[–]Lucius-Cincinnatus 2 points2 points2 points 9 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

I WISH I could find a 21 year old virgin girl who was not obese.

You being a virgin is a very good thing.

Most guys would love to "teach" a virgin how to fuck properly. I know I would.

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon4 points5 points6 points 9 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

I WISH I could find a 21 year old virgin girl who was not obese.

What makes you think OP isn't obese??

[–]Pitchfork51 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link

Generally first sex with a girl isn't great.

[–]onaromanholiday 1 point1 point1 point 9 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

with each person?

[–]Pitchfork51 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

Yeah

[–]onaromanholiday 1 point1 point1 point 9 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

why not?

[–]Frigzy1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Ever did something great the first time you ever did it?

[–]Pitchfork51 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Try it. You'll see.

[–]onaromanholiday1 point 9 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

You can't give a brief explanation.

[–]chachaChad2 points3 points4 points 9 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link

Most guys will but not me. Trust me baby. I know just what to do. I know it’s a little intimidating at first but I’ll be gentle. It’s dark in here but I have a light and I’ll show you the light.

[–]onaromanholiday 3 points3 points3 points 9 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

you need to chill

[–]chachaChad1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

I don’t need to do shit.

[–]onaromanholiday -1 point-1 point-1 point 9 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

What you need to do is get your head out of your ass because all you're doing is talking shit.

[–]-drukpa-kunley-6 points7 points8 points 9 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

Actually you are the one that needs to chill. This is a men's forum, and we do not accept shaming language from anyone here. Men or women.

We pull no punches, and we don't coddle women. Just because you have a vagina doesn't mean anything here. If you're offended by a user's comments then don't engage them.

Otherwise, go to /r/RedPillWomen

[–]chachaChad0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

What op missed is she needs a captain to lead her through this.

[–]-drukpa-kunley-0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Not only a captain, but a good captain.

The problem with girls is that they can't discern a good captain from a bad captain. The just look at the behavioral markers that signal 'captain'. Which is why Asshole Game works as well it does. It projects the behavioral markers of 'captain'.

[–]DiggerClam0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link

Go have sex and report back here with your findings.

[–]onaromanholiday 1 point1 point1 point 9 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

I tried to once and it was awful he couldnt get hard long enough and I wasnt wet at all.

[–]DiggerClam1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link

Stop watching porn. Sex is supposed to be less than perfect.

Maybe he was/is a virgin too.

Chill out, have a few drinks if it eases the tension. Tell him what makes you wet.

[–]onaromanholiday 1 point1 point1 point 9 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

he wasn't thats the thing. I feel like everyone my age is supposed to have it figured out and I felt like a fucking weirdo

[–]DiggerClam1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

At 21 you don't know shit.

You've also just answered you own question; this Casanova you keep referring to doesn't know shit either.

You obviously haven't read shit here, because if you had you'd know that virgins>sluts. Get this insane idea put of your mind that being a virgin gives you lesser value.

[–]onaromanholiday 1 point1 point1 point 9 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

Guys on here are always talking about the 'good' sex they get from their plates - I don't really know if the same would apply with me

[–]DiggerClam2 points3 points4 points 9 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link

Plates are just a pussy that guys invite over to fuck and then kick out immediately after sex.

I think you're in way over your head, sweetheart.

If you like this guy, hit him up again, if not move on.

Try /r/redpillwoman

[–]onaromanholiday1 point 9 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

red pill women are kind of the cancer of the internet - reading through there isn't very helpful at all lmfao

[–]onaromanholiday 1 point1 point1 point 9 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

I never faced him again since. I don't know how to prevent something like that from happening again

[–]Frigzy0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

In all honesty if the guy knows what he's doing it's nothing to worry about. If not, it's still mostly on him not to fuck up.

[–]throwthehoeaway69 1 point1 point1 point 9 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

If a guy wants to have sex with you, he's attracted to you in some sort of way. Maybe he wants to marry you, maybe he just wants to fuck.

Either way, sex is like pizza. When it's good, it's good and when it's bad, it's still pretty good!

[–]DiggerClam0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

And a sex and pizza date is pretty much fucking heaven.

[–]AwakenedSovereign0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Only if you blame them.

At 21 as a virgin I will assume you either have some extremely deeply rooted conditioning about "save sex for marriage"... or you are unfuckably ugly.

If the former, find someone who isn't a little bitch, and have them show you the ropes. You can try to do this in a relationship or not. Up to you.

If the latter, work on being more fuckable.

GL HF

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Will guys hate me for being anxious/frigid during sex?

You get a free pass the first time.

After that I expect you to loosen up and GIVE. ie quit worrying about your fucking self so much and let go and enjoy and share.

If you're self centred, frigid, anxious..... just... no. I've got better and easier options.

[–]GuestsGetGreens0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

No they won't hate you. Just be honest that you have some anxiety with it and most men will understand

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