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[–]throwitdownman 3 points4 points5 points (3 children) | Copy Link
[–]Defiant_Mess53461 points [recovered] (2 children) | Copy Link
This is a good point. I think the girls are genuinely into me but I just feel cheap asking to split on the first date. I’d have no problem paying if I was living in a place where drinks weren’t so expensive. Back in college a drinks date would be like $10-15 so it was easy for me. Do you recommend just asking to split?
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[–]hltr781 points [recovered] (9 children) | Copy Link
I go on a lot of first dates so this is what I found. When the check comes in go to the bathroom and take some time. When you come back she would have her card out if she has some morals and then just say we can split. Limit yourself to one drink. Usually I find that girls who split the check are the ones most interested and willing to fuck within first or second date
[–]Defiant_Mess53460 points [recovered] (8 children) | Copy Link
Yeah I am already planning to get only one drink to save money. The bartender usually keeps a tab and you have to tell them when you want to pay since I like to sit with girls at the bar instead of across from each other at a table. Will asking to split the tab decrease your chances of banging the girl? That’s my main concern. If I limit myself to one drink she probably will too and then I can venue change to my apartment which would be better.
[–]hltr781 points [recovered] (6 children) | Copy Link
Literally on Monday I went on a first date and I went to the bathroom and she had already paid the full 40 bucks and I went back to her place to fuck her. Lol it’s scummy but it works
[–]Defiant_Mess53460 points [recovered] (5 children) | Copy Link
How do you suggest going back to your/their place after the date? I’ve found it’s easy with girls 1-2 points below your SMV, but with girls on your level it can be a bit harder. My date game is also not great so that’s a factor. Say the date has gone on for 1-2 hours and going well. How do I suggest going back to my place without seeming needy? Do you touch the girl during the date to warm her up? How do you sexualize the conversation?
I have been able to get some really attractive girls out on dates and they seem very into me but my close rate is pretty low. I usually try to go for the lay on the first date and for a while I was getting them back to my apartment but then escalating too fast once there. I’m going to try putting on a movie and easing into it next time. Any thoughts on this?
[–]hltr783 points [recovered] (3 children) | Copy Link
I have a repeated script that I like to do lol, I just find the same patterns with almost every girl. Give like one compliment and nothing more and look straight into their eyes then look away. Touch their arms and say let’s dance and grab their hand but don’t actually dance. After 2 hours get out of the venue and go for makeout. When the makeout ends a little say “we can keep going” and suggest for checking out apartment. But honestly bro don’t force any of the interactions, just be natural. Sometimes you get the lay due to logistics and sometimes you don’t. Just be willing to be patient if it doesn’t happen on first date. For example, on Saturday a girl on a first date arrived in an Uber and I drove her back to her place and she let me smash due to lucky logistics. What made that possible is I made her very comfortable during the date. We just vibed heavy and it felt very natural. Just be smooth on the date and that increases your chances tenfold.
[–]Defiant_Mess53461 points [recovered] (2 children) | Copy Link
This is really helpful man. I’ve been able to get a lot of dates recently due to improving my SMV. When I go to bars/clubs on the weekends I’m able to get a ton of numbers which leads to 1-3 dates every week if I want to. But despite this I have not been closing any of these dates and not getting second dates (the girls don’t text me). I think my problem is sexualizing and vibing on the date.
Should I go for the make out on the street outside the bar? Or should I go for it at the bar towards the end of the date? I will practice sexualizing my tone and asking them more questions about themself. Should I touch or escalate during the date? My apartment is right across the street from the bar I take girls to for first date so logistics are good. How should I initiate dancing when back at my place and what kind of music should I put on?
[–]hltr782 points [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
Oh those are good logistics. On the date let them do most for the talking and make remarks about what they say and ask questions. Touch their arms, hands, and hair in the bar. You should makeout outside of the bar. If then she wants you to lead suggest dancing at your apartment and that you’re just in the mood for dancing since you want to practice more. This will make her feel less slutty etc. I like to put on reggaeton or straight up bachata and dance music. From there grab them, look them in the eyes and you’re good. Putting on a movie in my opinion is more awkward and harder to escalate but do you.
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