20 year old need advice

GIMV791 · 2019-05-02T09:11:03+00:00

Go to gym, start getting a good physique, forget the girls for now the reality is a short cut is to try and make friends with the frat people because then you have social proof, meaning if the “cool” guys hang out with you therefore it gives you social proof to say you are “cool” to. In all honesty though I am a big advocate on being authentically you however you must know how to play the game. I recommend you YouTube Corey Wayne and listen to his audiobook again and again 10-15 times, it’s a game changer and if you learn the principles at 20 you are set for life my friend. Forget all the gimmick stuff, go gym get your body right, get your fashion on point and learn the game from Corey Wayne and they will come to you trust me.

EndTriassicOnslaught · 2019-05-02T11:52:03+00:00

Read No More Mr. Nice Guy and Models

failingandbailing · 2019-05-02T12:30:30+00:00

When I was in college (now 28f), I never hung out at frats or with people that went there. That just wasn’t my scene. Personally, I don’t find the “jacked” look attractive - if you want to gain muscle, do that because it’s what you want. Not because you think girls will like it. Try meeting people that you get along with and have similar interests and the conversation will come. As for flirting with girls, confidence in who you are is a big thing. That to me is incredibly attractive and means a lot more than physical attributes. If you strike up a conversation with a girl, lead her places subtly by touching the small of her back or asking if you can get her a drink (if you’re out). Or try simple compliments. Try starting a conversation by noticing something about her and commenting on it. It sucks for guys because there’s a lot of pressure but start by being confident with you!

auxdub · 2019-05-02T12:01:58+00:00

The advice I would give to my 20 years old self is: embrace failure.

I know it is painful to hear that right now, but the more you try to approach, make mistakes and get rejected, the better. No amount of internet advice will eliminate the necessity of getting through painful experiences with girls.

By doing this you will not start to connect the dots of what works for you but you will also create some natural resilience related to social situations, and that will make wonders for your game a few years in the future.

Going to the gym or martial arts is also a great way to develop mental and physical toughness, so dive into it if you can as well.

ermahgerdafancyword · 2019-05-02T13:20:37+00:00

It should not be shocking that the attractive women you are attracted to solely because they are attractive are themselves attracted to attractive people. You sound like you find this unfair, which is hypocritical of you.

The obvious solution is to become attractive yourself. Physically, work with what you have and improve as far as possible. If the girls you desire put work into their diet and exercise, their hair and outfits, then you should, too. Beyond the physical: be an attractive person. That means be interesting, engaging and fun to be around. Improve yourself socially.

The most important thing is: do this not (solely) because it hurts your feelings that the hottest women around you prefer other men over you. Do it for yourself, regardless of women. Do not tie your self worth as a man to the amount of sex or attention you get. Develop better, deeper qualities within yourself in order to become a positive, confident person. That is attractive.

imonredditnowguys · 2019-05-02T08:30:14+00:00

I'm 22 but the rest is literally the same with my case. Would love advice on this. Thanks.

Cocomale · 2019-05-02T11:59:37+00:00

Something that's rarely told is that you should date up. Date an average looking girl with a nice personality. Two such affairs and you have the confidence and know how's to approach attractive women. Who can themselves be not worth it.

itzReborn · 2019-05-02T15:42:02+00:00

Same position as this guy and the semester is almost over. Would also like some advice

Lilmystery102 · 2019-05-02T16:22:38+00:00

You have to act like the prize. You are making the girls day by going and talking to her. You do not have to go to parties to find hot girls you can just find them out on the street. Show confidence and say something interesting. If you get to nervous then look at canned openers to help you so you can fall back. A girl doesn't want you to come up and just ask for her number. She wants something interesting make yourself standout even if it takes for you to peacock.

MrL4ngy · 2019-05-02T08:44:48+00:00

Go to the gym, attempt to talk to every attractive girl you see even if its to ask for the time and make a conversation any way you can. You will be shut down repetitively but you will grow stronger. Physically and emotionally

Kavafy · 2019-05-02T10:14:23+00:00

Overly broad and beginner topic, post in r/askseddit

Rico114034 · 2019-05-02T14:17:23+00:00

Hey brah I feel you, I have a YouTube channel titles

Rick Collins

I just released a video about Cold approach vs IOI I also have videos about online dating Dark Tactics and others.

Check me out and take my advice

Title	20 year old need advice
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Date	May 2, 2019 6:08 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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