I (25M) don’t know what hell i am doing wrong. Apparently i’m doing something right when i get 1st dates and get 2nd dates but whenever I go on a 2nd date i always get the “it’s not quiet working out for me” text.

I’m talking more than 15+ second dates that didn’t go anywhere. We can have great sex, okay sex, bad sex or no sex but at the end of the day none of these women want to date me further. I have dated one girl for more than 3+ meet ups but it was clear she was using me for money and wasn’t truly into me, so i had to cut that off. starting to feel like it’s pointless to even try to find a partner through online dating nowadays.

The last 2nd date i had with a girl just sent me a text saying “…I’ve been talking to someone for a little bit now and it wasn’t anything serious at the time but I’ve decided to give dating a shot with him. I’ve enjoyed getting to know you…blah blah i would love if we be friends…” right when I thought i had found something. Just my luck.

I am starting to think it’s a physical attraction thing… Idk really. Just venting as I am in a perpetual state of mediocracy. I have two more 1st dates this coming week…. And i can’t help but think of my “great 2nd date filter” when i go on dates now and it’s giving me anxiety.

Any advice welcome.