In 2011, I found a website of some long haired English guy stopping beautiful girls in the street and chatting them up. Now I am running a small business that takes guys in field to help them get this skill down. These are the things that I have taught guys and watched them do amazing things in field.

  1. No such thing as "Approach Anxiety." The concept of "Approach Anxiety" was something I had never heard of before learning game. I did get those butterflies that told me "Don't do it. you'll look stupid", but I never heard them be called something. After years of learning and now teaching, I can say that this is a made up term coined by marketers to take money from people. Approach Anxiety is nothing more than the fear that you are not good enough. If you believe that you aren't good enough, when you talk to her, you will act like it. When you start building yourself up, these feelings of "I'm not good enough" will start to fade. They will never truly go away, but they will start to shut the hell up. If you believe you are not good enough, start fixing yourself. If you are happy with who you are, start acting like it. You are good enough, now act like it.

  2. Rejection is normal. In your life, you will be told "No" more than you will hear "Yes". When you get blown out of set, learn from it. B. Franklin wrote that "those things that hurt, often instruct.". This sounds like such cheap advice, but learn to love failure. When you at the gym and cant beat you PR, do you Quit? Hell no. When you can't beat a level in the video game, do you quit? No*. Learn that rejection is normal and should be welcomed. When you are rejected, you find out what needs to be worked on.

  3. Respect will get you a lot further than anything else. I have sent guys home from my boot camp with a full refund because they would refer to women as "bitches" or they would say i want some "pussy". Women usually don't like being called names and they are way more than a sex toy. They have hopes, dreams, and a story to tell. Treat them like a person, not a pocket pussy with a body attachment.

TL;DR you are good enough, learn to fall in love with rejection, and women are people too

*you should because video games are a waste of time. Read a book, work out,or something productive. But the point stands that when faced with hardship, we shouldn't give up.