What's up champs,

I'm a moderately attractive guy who is positive and social. I'm confident in nearly everything I do. I have little problem talking to women, and I feel like I can get nearly any woman to flirt back with me. I have good interactions. However, I have three sticking points.

  1. Getting my ass off the couch. If I have a reason to talk to a girl, or if I'm at a party, or if she's in a class of mine, or if I'm introduced through friends, I'm totally fine and handle it like a pro. But AA kills me. I've learned a lot about pick-up but have only approached a handlful of women. I've simply been applying the attitudes and techniques to women I have an "excuse to meet. My solution so far is just to bring them to me by creating that "excuse;" I throw parties/bbqs/etc, which is great and makes me look like a boss, but my success rate is still low.

  2. I have a lot of anxiety about going on "dates." I feel a pressure to perform, be funny, etc. Needless to say, this is a terrible state to be in going in.

Because I am confident and good at talking/teasing and initial kino, I end up with half a dozen women at any given time who would hang out with me but never actually do it. I think part of the problem here is that I'm content/lazy, and part of the problem is I'm a virgin (at 26) and subconsciously scared.

  1. I have trouble escalating to the kiss. I can playfully escalate before, but actually taking it physical is difficult for me. I took a huge step forward with the last girl I hooked up with by just grabbing her and kissing her unannounced (while sober) (also, this really turned her on), but the sticking point largely remains. After the kiss, I'm fine, but it typically only gets there if lots of drinks are involved.

I feel like I have a very strange combination of confidence and fear. I'll feel like a supermack talking to a girl but like a big fat pussy when I should be kissing/fucking her.

Wouldn't have even posted this because it's embarrassing, but I really dig the overwhelmingly positive community here. Any help would be appreciated. Thanks!