Background: I've posted on here about one of my main sticking points: physical escalation. In short, I can have a good convo and get girls attracted but fail to "make a move" (probably because I think of it as "making a move" instead of just continuing a connection). I'm fine before and after kissing (on those occasions I can make it happen), but kissing is a sticking point. Fear of repeated failure in this regard has even stopped me from going on dates.

Anyway, I made plans with two girls this weekend. One ended up super sick (hospital style) and couldn't come out, so I just made plans with the other. As it got closer, the old fear kicked in and I could feel myself building excuses: the line will be long, her friend will be there (her friend was there), don't need to spend a lot of money, etc. This stuff is all illogical and forces me out of the lottery completely, and I know that, but I virtually had to beat my subconscious into submission to get myself to put some pants on and JUST GO.

We arrive at the club/lounge. It's loud but we have a small table. Her friend is there, but she's really cool, immediately likes me, and we get to have an awesome chat while HB8 goes to get drinks. After this, she's totally cool with letting me do my thing.

This girl is pretty relaxed, but I got tested pretty good. At one point she said, "you're wittier on gchat, but it's ok," and gave me a BS little reassuring pat on my leg. In this case, I decided not to fight for the frame and just take it back by being cool, so I smiled really big, playfully punched her on the chin, and started talking to her friend (got frame back and some good kino; touching a girl's face is high-level kino--thanks, DiCarlo).

There's light kino until we start dancing. It's a room full of white people (I'm white too), so, a little rhythm + a dontgiveafuck attitude made me look like a boss on the dancefloor. We kino heavier and her friend (god bless her; she could have been such an obstacle, but she was so cool about everything) just removes herself and starts dancing and doing her own thing.

This is what I'm most proud of: I hop up and sit on one of the speakers and she is dancing between my legs. Without warning, she walks away like 20 feet and starts dancing with some dude. I was so in-state I laughed at her and immediately grabbed two girls and busted my own groove. She was really under the impression she was giving me a hard shit test until she turned around and saw two cuties laughing, dancing and kino'ing ME! (In retrospect I think this was much easier to pull off having had an HB8 dancing between my legs while I sat up on a speaker like a champ; all of that just says VALUE). Anyway, she sees me, pulls me away from them, gives me a smile, and says something like, "Listen, you're not going to get anyone hotter than me."

Then we made out. Easy and natural. I really have to remember this because it was such a breeze when I was so in-state and having so much fun. She wanted to go home with me, but her friend was pretty sloshed and she really did need to get her home. Going to see her again I'm sure.

Fun times. Lessons learned.