Abundance mindset vs High standards

Twobithatter · 2021-05-01T03:55:03+00:00

I prefer to go after girls I think are 8-10s. Even if it means I might have a dry spell or only be talking to a single girl. i would rather have sex once with a 10 then multiple girls from the bottle of the barrel. I had a buddy who was a good looking guy. He was always in the gym, full beard, looked good but was always chasing bigger girls or just plain ugly girls. Dudes like him are what give those girls high standards they shouldnt have.

Im also attracted to a specific characteristic of women but I still find other women attractive, if that makes sense. The only real difference is if she fits the characteristics I like then I intend to date them. A lot of times if i just think they’re attractive then im trying to just hookup with them.

little_miss_underdog · 2021-05-01T10:07:37+00:00

I have the same problem, I’m 26, smart, nice, pretty, etc but I’ve never had an official relationship. I remember telling this one guy that and he was like “Are your standards too high?” and for a second I considered he might be right, but I’ve decided I’m not going to settle for less than I deserve. That being said, there aren’t that many guys out there who possess the things I truly care about (respect, kindness, perseverance etc.) and there are even less that I’m physically attracted to, so I don’t know. It’s like somebody already said, you only need to meet that one right person to feel abundant so I’m not too worried about it.

revente · 2021-05-01T03:26:15+00:00

Different strokes for different folks. Find a balance that suits you.

I always had very high standards but it meant that i've regularly returned home from a club without any action. Actually there were many nights when i'd enter a club, look at the dancefloor, concede that there are no good looking girls and exit. There were nights when i'd enter a club, approach the only girl i'm interested right away, get rejected and leave.

Still i've managed to date and fuck dozens of 8-9,5's/10 and i have an amazing gf right now.

401kisfun · 2021-05-01T17:50:21+00:00

I only slept with sex workers for years for this reason. How else can you line up a girl who fits all of your physical preferences ready to fuck exactly how you want to fuck?

Adventurous_Gene_692 · 2021-05-01T08:45:39+00:00

I'm gonna give a different perspective here, so for me i usually have a thing for tall girls with long legs but i never approached th in the beginning I think you can start with 3-4s and then move to 5s and 6 and build your way because exp plays important while gaming 9s .

2021-05-01T17:28:20+00:00

Well, you really said it yourself: conventional standards implies that it’s the standard used conventionally. Which is determined by..... who, exactly?

High standards implies that anyone you’re not attracted to is lesser. But turn around and say a woman rejects you because she has “standards” but it turns out those are just a different type of man she’s into, and it has nothing to do with the fact you have 6-pack abs and are a multi-millionaire (just go with it for the sake of argument.) So she would have upheld “high standards” which are literally just using a different system of measuring. It’s like how in Korea they used measuring tools, so when I was explaining how big thanos is to my english class they had no idea what I was talking about in feet and inches.

Speaking of which, in korea the girls like men who are borderline feminine: extremely thin, no muscle mass to speak of, makeup, etc.

So again, ask yourself whose standards exactly? After going to Korea, I asked myself that question and found my tastes in women were different. All the guys I went to college with were into large bums and I like large chests more.

Once you start thinking of tastes and standards as subjective for yourself, then you can start using the abundance mindset as seeing there are probably plenty of women who are into you and who you will also be into, and setting a subjective standard for who you’re into rather than who’s conventionally attractive (because remember: conventionally attractive doesn’t exist because being fat is actually attractive in polynesian cultures) will set a balance between the abundance mindset and the high standards.

Title	Abundance mindset vs High standards
Author	hsru
Upvotes	59
Comments	27
Date	May 1, 2021 3:12 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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