Advice for a Beginner?

daygamer0911 · 2017-10-26T06:19:06+00:00

Keep going. The majority of your approaches will be rejections of some sort. Don't take it personally. Just don't stop.

PDX_Relationshipnerd · 2017-10-26T06:55:23+00:00

The biggest advice I can give to any beginner is that an afternoon of experience is worth years of reading.

You can read every book, watch every YouTube video, and think you learned something, but you don't actually learn anything until you put it into practice. Approach anxiety sucks, it's the worst thing about this entire thing, but if you can learn to master it, you will find immense success.

You're going to get rejected... a lot. Get used to it. Start loving the rejection. The key is to get to the point that you don't care if you get rejected or not. If you truly don't care about rejection, then you will have no hesitation about approaching anyone, anywhere.

Don't get caught up in these posts. A lot of the writers are not experts or successful people, most are beginners like you trying to write advice they want to take but are too afraid. The danger is that they can give out terrible advice or make you think there is a 'trick' to making this work. Well the only 'trick' I know is experience.

Best of luck to you. Get out there and start working.

brownarrows · 2017-10-26T06:39:40+00:00

Dude get happy with yourself and consider pick-up as you sharing that happiness with someone you'd like to share with.

55redditor55 · 2017-10-26T06:36:55+00:00

Don't be too hard on yourself.

ONLY compare yourself with the old you do not compare yourself to Instagram models for example.

Understand every girl is living a different situation (married, single, just-dumped, lesbian, out with friends etc).

Bonus: It's a numbers game.

2udaylatif · 2017-10-26T12:05:33+00:00

Keep approaching

Mrdinhdinh · 2017-10-26T13:25:50+00:00

Fail. Then learn from it.

apollosocial · 2017-10-26T16:32:50+00:00

I wouldn't focus on just pick up tactics as a lot of it is very game-y and won't feel like part of you. You'll have some success since it's better than doing nothing, but you really need to develop your own psychology at the same time or what you might call "inner game". Everything flows from mindset and your state, the emotions you're giving off. This takes more time but is more fulfilling than just learning tactics and will attract higher quality girls.

Bluelord · 2017-10-26T20:55:41+00:00

Three things to remember in the beginning.

Don't fear rejection, fear not making progress. Rejection itself is a learning experience and if you are intimidating you just will not have fun
Have fun. You want to be with someone etc. Is all fine and dandy. But what you want to do is have fun and not think of it as a test.
Don't catch feelings to quick or feel entitled to anything. This is cringe worthy. Just because you get her number or anything does not mean she caught feelings. I say this because beginners catch feelings to often.

Anyway have fun and ask me questions if you want. I'm out of the pick up game but it basically is the same as when I was going out. But nothing is better than going out and experiencing it first hand

Bay2ThaWorld · 2017-10-26T05:42:00+00:00

Yea du, warm up on IG. Shoot me a Dm I’ll tell u more

Title	Advice for a Beginner?
Author	GodKick
Upvotes	41
Comments	24
Date	October 26, 2017 4:44 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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