Advice for a below average looking guy?

_louisquezada · 2020-02-18T06:26:11+00:00

Only tip i got for you is to change your mentality! You don’t even give yourself a chance bro. Go do some approaches and you’ll be surprised how much women will be into you until you start talking and ruin it, but then that’s when you start practicing game hahaha! But for now, worry about putting yourself out there and giving your ugly ass a chance instead of feeling bad about it, coming from an ugly guy myself. One step at a time!!

Insaneflirt_max · 2020-02-18T07:57:14+00:00

It's all in your head bruh

Fix your insecurities

Melodic-Scientist · 2020-02-18T07:10:22+00:00

I am below average too so here are some tips for u. U need to boost your confidence, if you think u dont have a chance with any girl, u need to improve. I know u have a hard time but i have been there and u need to have confidence. Go to the barber and ask him for a cool hairstyle that would suit u best. Hygiene ia very very very importany, wash uour hair and face every morning. Get a nice parfume, good smell always attracts ladies. Buy some clothes, i dont mean expensive ones, i mean good ones that will suit u well. Think girls as friends, u will get less nervous around them. Dont go for girls out of your leage, lets be realistic here. Talk to more girls in your social circle, school etc...

ARealonenocap · 2020-02-18T12:30:00+00:00

I’m not the most handsome guy around by any means BUT I’ve never had any sort of problem with getting the girls that I’ve wanted. I think that one of the strongest things that can attract a woman to you is your attitude, confidence level and their level of comfort with you immediately. If you try and quick fix your confidence most of the time it comes of as disingenuous.

So my advice on the confidence thing is similar to another person that commented. He said something to the effect of , think of women as friends. The way that I’ve always approached it is with the mind set of just being somewhat friendly to everyone and if the person wants to speak back then they will.

Don’t put any pressure or immediate expectations on interactions. Treat women and men the exact same way. This is where the experience of consistently making conversation with strangers will start to shape help and eventually shape your confidence.

You have to understand that most women that you want to talk to have tons of guys that want to talk to them too and do. A good way to stand out is to go for being a breath of fresh air to a girl that’s been approached often by so many guys.

The one thing that I have always had going for me was that my father was a musician and I met tons and tons of people at a young age, allowing me to have lots of experiences with people much older than me and tons of them were female so I grew extremely comfortable around women, allowing me an upper hand in most situations.

A good way to think of it that is very different from most guys is - what does she have to offer me-?

Most guys are usually thinking -how do I get her - when I’m reality she isn’t the only one with standards. If you speak to a woman with the idea in mind that she has to have something to offer to you also this will change your interactions naturally. This is something that you have to remind yourself of constantly. This also just separates you from there douches that annoy women on the regular.

If you see a woman you’re attracted to but you’re not able to relax and be comfortable in your skin, you’re more than likely gonna feel awkward and show it in some way. Women have so many previous interactions with men and the amount of interactions in comparison to yours gives them an edge and the ability to compare and recognize things quickly. The sheer volume alone makes some of em experts at reading guys. So I would suggest making conversation with as many people as you can M & F Observe the person and the situation without thinking too hard and find and entry. Simple things are the best. They allow you to quickly get a sense of the person, the persons mood.

I have so many female friends that have some story that starts with “ I didn’t think he was the hottest guy but” attitude means a lot more to women than it does to men in general. If you can stand out, most of the time that puts you in a different place in their mind. Tons of relationships start here. You know how often you see a beautiful girl with an ok guy. Well this is mostly because when you have your pick , you tend to want something different than the everyday and obvious. It’s not hard to stand out among the tons of douches that most women have to deal with.

So try and make sure all of the regular every day things are taken care of. Breath, hygiene, decent style, well groomed, clean shoes etc. these are tells for most women and even deal breakers.

So bottom line, get used to just finding entry into naturally making small talk with all people, then reach yourself to treat women the same way as you do men. It gives off the sense that you’re not plotting to get something AND that you’re not eager or overly thirsty. If you grab get here, In most cases women around you will become curious as to why you aren’t like the rest. This can lead to more curiosity which leads to you seeming somewhat mysterious. From there you’ll even end up having women vocally express their curiosity to you directly. This is where the tables turn and they start to wonder why you don’t seem to think of them in that way. When that happens you’re probably circulating in their mind more than the other men that may be in their minds.

I know this was a lot to read but if it were simple and sweet, men would be the ones in demand. Feel free to ask anything you want.

Good luck man

quinnmcd · 2020-02-18T13:02:51+00:00

This post/comment has been removed because it violates Rule #5: The topic is too broad, has been covered a lot already, or involves the assumption overly limited by race, age, physical limitations/appearance, and/or other inborn external qualities.

Put in some reading & work before asking questions that have been addressed, like: * How do I approach? * How do I get a number? * How do I talk to girls at college? * How/When do I kiss a girl? * Does this really work?

As for the last one, it is an answered question. There have been many posts on physical limitations over the years, including this one. No need to re-ask it.

Title	Advice for a below average looking guy?
Author	Goldfielddid911
Upvotes	1
Comments	5
Date	February 18, 2020 6:06 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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