Advice: what to do about a canceled first date?

hypnobear · 2010-02-08T04:52:38+00:00

shes lying

her: i have some bullshit reason not to go on a date with you

you: ok talk to you later

bongo bingo

EDIT: you don't need to make another attempt, sorry if the original post was a bit harsh. once you do this she might text you something later...whatever you do make it sound like you're doing the best thing there is and she's missing out.

example of what not to do:

her: whatre you up to

you: oh nothing really, sitting around playing video games...really bored lol

thing to take away from this: you are having the most fun and doing the best stuffs and if she wants to make up some bullshit not to join you fuck it you dont need her

EDIT 2: this'll get her to want to do things...or at least it should, if it doesn't roll to the next one

EDIT 3: I've been drinking but this is all solid advice

2010-02-08T05:47:27+00:00

Yeah, she's just not interested, find another date.

roflburger · 2010-02-08T06:31:23+00:00

in my experience this always mean they just don't want to go on a date with you. The only exception being a cancellation with an alternative date or at least making some other tentative plan.

Casually · 2010-02-08T09:53:37+00:00

Young girls tend to be pretty flakey. However, if you're getting flaked on a lot, it probably means you aren't building enough rapport during the initial interaction. If you can build a stronger connection before you set up the date, you're less likely to get flaked on.

That being said, if a girl cancels at the last minute, and you want to continue seeing her, I would wait a few days, and then send her a spontaneous text, something funny or random that will get her to reply to you. Once you open up that channel of communication, banter a little bit, then invite her out with you: "hey, my buddies and I are hitting up xxx on tuesday night, you should come." If she flakes again, it's probably not worth the effort.

BenedictKenny · 2010-02-08T17:09:52+00:00

Nix her.

You should have back-up plans, and multiple people you're "seeing," to the degree that it shouldn't matter. If she's your date for "the week," you're not doing your duty as a PUA.

Two things.

Many girls are just flaky and spoiled at your age. Everyone's growing up. That's the way it is.
The better your game gets, the less women will flake as well, vs. coming along for the unique experience of being around you. That's some motivation for getting better. At this point, you're not captivating enough, if this happens too often.

daenerys · 2010-02-13T20:17:55+00:00

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WM1RChZk1EU

Title	Advice: what to do about a canceled first date?
Author	narwhalian
Upvotes	1
Comments	7
Date	February 8, 2010 4:34 AM UTC (16 years ago)
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