Advice with current situation

MrAnonPoster · 2024-08-19T19:09:02+00:00

For the Nth time:

"I'm going to be leaving for a while but I would be back" = casual sex now

Casual sex = liability.

What you bring to her (looks, personality, toe curling good time, $$$$) = asset.

if liabilities > assets you do NOT get the cookie even if you want it. If your assets > liabilities you get the cookie if you want to. Want to have access to cookies regardless of liabilities? *Increase the assets*.

Social_Teapot · 2024-08-19T19:33:15+00:00

I’m in a situation similar, I’d you plan on travelling don’t date. It’s not fair on the girls and can complicate things if you travel. My advice leave it from your return (or last leg of of your travels!)

Broad-Cranberry-9050 · 2024-08-21T16:51:41+00:00

Dude this makes no sense. You are trying to get something serious before leaving and hoping the girl stays loyal for the month you are gone. Two weeks isnt enough time to stay loyal or be serious with someone to wait a month. If a girl told you she was looking for something serious but was leaving for a month would you wait and stay loyal? Likely not, so why are you expecting her to do it? If you meet a girl who is willing to wait but doesnt want to fuck until you get back but then your month away you meet a girl who is willing to fuck for a few weeks, are you going to stay loyal to the first girl?

This is not information you need to shar off the bat. Go out, have a good time, if asked just tell them you are just looking to have a good time that night. If you go home with them and they are interested in taking it further then let them know that you are leaving soon and had a good time and are willing to keep this going but you didnt want to play with their feelings and want to be completely honest.

Im sure people appreciate the honesty but if you tell them immediately that you want somehting serious but are leaving for a month the firet thing they think is "thats ncie but why would I continue this if you are leaving me for a month".

I think your next 2 weeks should be focused on sowing that oat. If something serious comes out of it where a girl is willing to wait the month then great but dont force or rush anything serious. Get that urge out of your system and then come back clearly focused on getting something serious.

norwegiandoggo · 2024-08-19T19:54:33+00:00

When you want

A serious relationship
Tryna fuck ASAP

At the same time, you're asking for trouble. Pick one. Don't be lying or making promises you can't keep, and be a bit more tactful about what you share.

If you're just trying to have a one night stand as soon as possible: it makes ZERO sense to tell them you're leaving soon as this might ruin your chances, right? You got rejected twice for this mistake. Don't make it again.

If you're going to bang women on vacation don't tell ladies that you will not bang other women on vacation..this is lying. No-one asked you to promise to stay "faithful" while on vacation so why are you making promises you can't keep? No-one is even asking for this promise so keep your mouth shut about it.

In the end, if you decide to focus only on causal sex or only on finding a serious relationship, you will be simplifying everything for yourself. So make a choice, for the time being, and stick to it.

If you're going for casual sex, the you will probably need to a bit more tricky and smart about what you share. More "deception" is benecicial to a certain extent. Ommitting some info and so on.

If you're trying to build a relationship you gotta be honest and forthcoming. Very different vibe. Because here you have to build a lot more trust. You cannot lie here as that destroys trust and the relationship is therefore doomed if you lie.

Title	Advice with current situation
Author	omry8880
Upvotes	1
Comments	10
Date	August 19, 2024 7:06 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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