Any info on how to develop a deeper emotional connection?

vhee · 2012-01-10T21:31:44+00:00

Aha, finally a real question regarding seduction. You don't see much of these lately because of all the people rolling in here thinking all they need to do is sit at home and read theory, then go out and think they become this magical sex god that instantly pulls ass if you study these lines enough.

Sorry men, it doesn't work that way.

The easiest way to build the fastest and most intense emotional connection with a girl is to be completely and unapologetically upfront and honest with her about who you are and what you want. The harsh reality of the truth is that depending on many other factors such as your physical appearance, your body structure, your vocal tonality and projection, in/apparent neediness, eye contact, how close you are to her, your eye contact, and most of all, what comes out of your mouth, this girl will feel one of three ways about you:

*I'd fuck him.

*Maybe I'd fuck him.

*Get the fuck away from me.

This seems like a lot to remember, but that's because in order to get the truly high quality women, it stops becoming a game that you play with clever silly lines and openers and methods, but instead becomes more about the meta game. Have you ever stopped to consider why women consistently claim to like "confident" men, and yet there is no real bar standard to set measure to how "confident" a man is? That's because true confidence stems from the fact of knowledge and acceptance of all of the above, and being able to apply it to the real world. You understand that you're not hitting on this girl, you're trying to have a conversation and get to know who she is.

Nobody in the seduction industry wants to acknowledge this, because it's so much easier to tell males in their 20-30s that all you need to get that girl you want is a couple of slick lines, and sure, maybe that will work for some simpler people, because ignorance is bliss. They don't look past the superficial qualities, so in the end the majority of their relationships will end up falling apart because it was all fake to begin with. But you asked something different. You asked how to build an emotional connection.

As long as you're not ass ugly (sorry ugly dudes) you will start out at the first or second point. Your job then is to weed out the girls who you can seduce and have a good time and get to know with from the girls who are simply not right for your personality and consequently not worth your time. If you are ass ugly, do not panic, you still can pull it off, you just have to work a little harder to compensate for the lack of attractiveness. I know this is an asshole thing to say, and trust me, I don't like saying it because I know how hurtful it sounds, but nobody else will say this because nobody wants to be that guy.

Whatever comes out of your mouth next is essentially what gets the girl off the fence about liking you, or further cements the fact that the girl likes you. At that point it doesn't matter what you say so long as you continue being honest and completely congruent with your character, it becomes all about the physical escalation.

30vanquish · 2012-01-10T20:31:14+00:00

Deeper emotional connection: What's the core passion of you? What's the core passion of her? Then it depends how your personalities are. Same humor? Similar mannerisms? Same way of thinking about the world? Similar fashion sense? Music/interests/whatever are helpful but overrated.

Even for the airheaded type of girls, if you can find any sort of passion on their side and bring it to the conversation (even sexual innuendo), that's a connection.

I'm not against pure lust. I'm just saying: if you want a deeper emotional connection, you'll need to be pickier because you won't vibe well with some attractive women.

ShowcasePUA · 2012-01-10T21:54:54+00:00

Yeah, there is something I've developed and used over the past month called the Eruption Method. The problem that it works a little too well. It's very potent if it is used right and I can't let the cat out of the bag knowing that it can fall into the wrong hands. I'd be willing to share it if you have good intentions. Message me if you're interested.

Title	Any info on how to develop a deeper emotional connection?
Author	JihadDerp
Upvotes	12
Comments	6
Date	January 10, 2012 2:57 PM UTC (14 years ago)
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