Say I number closed, but she doesn't reply. After 24 hours I'd try one last time. The 2nd try has never worked for me, but it takes 30 seconds and I don't have anything to lose at that point.

​

Instead of the 2nd try, is there a way to appeal to her charitable soul so she would give me feedback? Maybe something of the form "hey, I know you are not interested, I respect that. But could I ask you what went wrong? I've been trying to work on my social skills and I'd appreciate your honesty". I believe I'd improve so much faster if I got feedback once in a while.

​

I tried a few times the following: if the approach went alright, but she had a bf or didn't want to give me her number, I'd ask her for feedback right there. It doesn't work because they won't be honest and shy away from confrontation. Via text it should be different since they won't be anxious.