Attraction fading a relationship 3 months in

BozoCardozo · 2018-04-30T00:09:36+00:00

I think your relationship has run its course. The first part of a relationship is the hot, heavy, and lustful phase called the “honeymoon period.” This is where you’re both wild about each other. You can’t see enough of the other person, and all you want to do is think about ripping their clothes off 24/7.

In a few months, that phase starts to die down. You get used to each other. The other person is no longer new and novel. It isn’t as exciting. This is where you find out whether you and the other person have a genuine connection. If you do, the relationship will grow and your lives will become more intertwined. If you don’t, you’ll find yourself pulling away; the commitment will feel more like a chore than a relationship. The latter is a confusing and difficult realization because you’ll wonder where it all went, wonder if you or the other person did something that caused this.

Once you’ve come to the conclusion that the deeper connection isn’t there, it’s time to rip the bandaid off. This is incredibly difficult when you care about the person even if you don’t love the person. Knowing that you’re going to hurt someone you care about is a gut-wrenching feeling, but it’s something that often times has to be done. You know it; she knows it; we all know it. If you feel like it’s time, the longer you wait, the harder it’s going to get.

I’ll leave you with a story about a little boy who was riding on a sled that had been modified to have wheels instead of skates. The little boy was barefoot and was riding the sled down a steep, asphalt hill. It was great at first, but he quickly realized he was going too fast. Being barefoot, he couldn’t put his feet out to brake, and he got scared. He froze. Every second, the sled picked up speed, and the wall at the bottom of the hill was getting closer. Finally, the boy knew he had no choice but to bail. So, he did. He jumped off the sled. He rolled down the hill a little ways, but he stopped. He watched the sled continue down the hill until it reached the wall and broke into a million pieces. The boy got scraped up pretty badly, and it took awhile to heal, but he knew that he made the right choice because if he had stayed on that sled, he would have he would have eventually hit that wall, hard. There would be no telling how bad the injuries would have been, but his bravery and his courage spared him those injuries.

Kenic_In_MD · 2018-04-30T00:45:31+00:00

Is this a phase I'm just going through

Possibly, you ever talk to her and let her know that you want to slow down a bit? Also from experience I believe it's a bad idea to date in college at least until your senior year. Get your slutty phase out of your system then get serious.

LingeringGnome · 2018-04-30T00:55:56+00:00

If you're losing attraction in three months, it could be a few things.

I've been with my gf for two + years. There are times when I'm more attracted than others, but she still knocks my socks off.

Now, if you truly care about her, there are ways to repair a sex life. First, open her mind sexually. Dare each other to do crazy shit. Find out what her fantasies are, and do them, and film them. You may see her in a different light. Try for threesomes, try for risque photos somewhere. There are endless possibilities. Seeing your gf eat another girl out might just kick things into gear again, hahahaha....

Every couple of months my gf and I will have a few threesomes with different women. It's a big boost, and makes it hotter when it's just she and I, too.

If you care about her, experiment. What do you have to lose?

Title	Attraction fading a relationship 3 months in
Author	sabretoothtui
Upvotes	5
Comments	11
Date	April 29, 2018 11:50 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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