29/m here. So I have been in the game for about 2 years since my breakup with my ex, but not exactly been killing it these 2 years. There has been a couple girls - some one night stands, other sort of fuckbuddy relationships. Nothing crazy.

Lately I’m starting to run into situations where attractive, experienced women (typically abit older like late 20s and early 30s) especially in party scenarios seem to like me right off the bat. They just want to go home with me.

I’ve never been that guy. I was a scrawny nerd growing up, short, skinny, shy. In the past 10 years I’ve worked hard to turn that around, dressing better, going out more, took up bjj and hit the gym. Now I at least have some muscle and don’t look like a complete wimp anymore.

How do I feel deserving of these women? I just recently lost a golden opportunity at banging the hottest girl I would have been with because I bitched out, worried that I would disappoint her with my sexual performance. I also felt that I don’t deserve these girls, that I’m not good enough and my game is not enough. Like these are girls that are very comfortable with their sexuality and obviously have had a lot of partners.