Being quiet all by yourself in a corner, talking to no one, as people wonder "why is he so weird and anti social" is not what we mean in dating about women liking mysterious guys.

The difference is significant, u see... romantic attraction thrives on mystery, uncertanty, unpredictability, challange and tension. Women are attracted to men who they can't fully decipher, men who r mysterious meaning they can't read if the guy is sold on them or not, whose feelings about her are a bit unclear.

When she feels u like her, but can't be 100% be sure of it beacuse u either don't confirm it verbally even though ur body language ssuggets you do desire her, or u give her reasons to doubt or second guess it,... Or when you flirt in a provocative way, but it's ambiguous enough to not be fully clear if you want her, when she has to decipher u and read between the lines, that's when ur mysterious andthat's what draws her in to u.

You STOP being mysterious when u do some of these things:

  • Reassuring her of how serious u r about commiting to her
  • Trying to convince her that u really like her, which kills the uncertanity and mystery for her.
  • Looking for her attention often which fails to make her wonder what u rdoing when u don't talk to her.
  • Giving them so much validation with compliments, which removes tension and mystery and only feeds her ego
  • Trying to prove ur worth to her so that she chooses you, because by doing that doesn't have to try to prove her worth to you and thus there is no challange for her, let alone mystery since it's clear to her what your goal is without any doubt.
  • Trying to fit into her standards and her world which makes u predictable and thus recognizable, the opposite of mystery and uncertainty.
  • Making it clear what he is looking for so she has no chance to guess.
  • Making absolutely sure to let her know that u like her and want to be with her, and thus making sure she has no need to wander where u stand with her or doubt about how sold u r on her because you are already answering it to her very clearly. No mystery there.

While nobel this type of attitudess don't make women feel any attraction towards the guy who does them. It's not that they don't recognize their worth btw... it's that while valuable, attraction is missing... so while from a cerabral aspect they want to be attracted to the guy who does that, on an emotional aspect they are not feeling attracted to the guy.

Being quiet (not talking to anyone) does not create the type of mystery that builds attraction. Being quiet just makes u invisible. It builds a little mystery but not the one that attracts women. More like the type of mystery that says "what's wong with this dude" and that's it because she is not assuming you like her, but are hiding it. She just thnks you are shy or antisocial.

So being mysterious in practice is about:

Triggering their curiosity by acting like u are into them non verbally, while simultaneously being unpredictable, ambiguous, enigmatic, challenging for her to figure out your actual intentions, not revealing to them where they stand with you exactly... Making them second guess if you will reach out or not or when when they clearly are emotionally invested in your next response. Letting them know u thought of them and that made u feel something, but being vague about what you thought or felt exactly. Provoking and teasing them to create tension, and flirting sexually to make them feel desired and generate sexual tension to create the conditions for a kiss to happen, but not acting on the moment deliberately so that the tension increases wondering if you will or not, as she can't read fully what your next move will be.

That's what draws women in as they try to figure you out in order to make sense of your mysterious push and pull they can't fully decipher. This is why someitmes things like making a girl jealous is better than living in peace when it comes to keeping her interested. Because a girl becoming jealous makes her value you more. It's also why making them dout exactly where they stand with you or if you are fully sold on them it's more exciting for them than having absolute certainty. Women are more attracted to men whose feelings are a bit unclear.

The moment they feel like they already know what to expect, they moment you become predictable, things become comfortable and dull for them, which is when they begin to take you for granted, they don't fear losing you, and thus it stops being exciting for them leading gradually to having less feeling for you, unless you manage to briing back the mystery and the uncertainty again.