Being realistic is a good quality. Before, when I would consider going out/approaching girls, I would say, "I'm not good enough, I'll just stay here in my comfort zone." From this, you can see how quickly a realistic perspective can send you into a negative thought cycle.

So later, when seddit made claims that being realistic is an attractive quality, I thought to myself, "How can I attract anyone while slipping into a negative thought cycle?"

But I'll try.

This addition of three words changes your mindset from negative AFC to determined PUA-in-practice, regardless of skill level. This is a critical difference, and can really improve your game.

R.M.CHAIR PSYCH, PH.D: Your mind doesn't like when your expectations do not align with reality. It feels bad because you are used to countless mental assessments throughout the day that do in fact align with your expectations.

If you are a beginner, it is good to remind yourself that you are in fact a beginner, and you will probably suck. Negative Thought

But I'll try

Changes it all into a positive thought! Improvement, leveling-up, whatever you want... you can taking your success and shoving it into the right direction.

Last night, I wasn't permitted into a frat party because I didn't bring any girls. I tried to get some girls heading in the same direction, girls were cool, but frat bro working the door declined. He said come at a later time and I'll get in, I did, and he didn't budge. It was late, I left to go home. Initially, I felt powerless. But THEN! I remembered that I tried (on multiple levels), and I felt better about the night.

Sometimes the best nights out for learning experiences are the nights you get jack shit.