Cancelling a first date?

colin13 · 2016-02-24T01:14:23+00:00

I say go with a different attitude. Sure, she doesn't have what you're looking for on the surface, but that's only half the battle. There are incredibly attractive girls out there that you just won't click with. Take it as a learning experience to see what personalities you like and if she tries to take it any further say you'd like to be just friends.

critix24 · 2016-02-23T22:47:08+00:00

be honest

Woujo · 2016-02-23T23:18:26+00:00

Now I want to cancel it so I don't go out on a pointless date with a girl I am not into.

Then cancel it. Tell her something came up. Life is too short to go on dates with people you don't want to.

lItsAutomaticl · 2016-02-24T01:10:23+00:00

Cancel.

Spaceman7Spiff · 2016-02-24T01:37:41+00:00

That's a tough call. Although, here's something to think about: I matched on Tinder with a girl that I didn't find physically attractive at all but we liked a shitload of the same bands (which I find is super rare on tinder) So we ended up going out for a beer and sure enough, not physically attractive at all. But we had a lot in common and she's now one of my best friends. Not only that, but she's introduced me to other great people... All I'm saying is, not every girl you go on a date with has to be a relationship or a fuck buddy. Having friends that are girls can be a good thing.

However, If you decide to cancel or if you end up not clicking with her at all or whatever, I defer to everyone's advice here: be honest, polite and clear.

nerga · 2016-02-24T02:07:47+00:00

How unattractive is she? It can be hard to judge from pictures alone. If she was sort of cute, maybe she is better in person. If you trust this friend, I assume he has a reason he thought you would be a good pair. I would go, have a casual date, have some fun. If you are not feeling it, move it into friendship. You can never have too many friends.

wirelezz · 2016-02-24T02:06:47+00:00

Models' take is to not approach a girl that you are not attracted to. If you wouldn't even approach the girl you are talking about, it doesn't make sense to even go out on a date with her. Message her over Facebook and tell her you have changed your mind and that you are not interested. Be honest.

bizort · 2016-02-23T23:17:05+00:00

Ask to reschedule and just don't follow up. If you reschedule soon enough then no harm no foul.

You can always be honest but it seems unnecessary to be so blunt before even meeting them

Title	Cancelling a first date?
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Upvotes	23
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Date	February 23, 2016 9:39 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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