I have discovered by reading through my FRs that my recent success with women comes from my body language and physical contact, not by what I say. This time last year I thought my lack of success with women was that I did not know how to talk to them. In reality I did not know how to communicate with a woman without using words.

I know body language has been talked about a lot on seddit but I really want to emphasize it again. If you were to observe me when I am out you would notice I stand up straight, my chest out, arch in my lower back pushing my ass out. I am 6 feet tall, I stand trying to be 6 foot one. When talking to a woman I am relaxed. If against a wall I lean on it. Same thing when talking at the bar. I look comfortable and in control because I am comfortable and usually feel in control.

The most important change I have made is touching. Touching communicates so many different signals that we could never express with words. A touch on her shoulder or back should send an electric pulse down her spine. A touch makes the surroundings fade to black and casts a spotlight on you. When physical contact is accepted by the woman move quickly to escalate the contact, do not stay static. Her body will get use to your hand resting on her shoulder. When you move your hand she will feel it, especially if it is a light touch that slightly tickles her. She cannot ignore you. If she likes it, she will become more comfortable with you. What words could I say to make this happen as quickly? I do not know, perhaps some here do and could execute, but I think they are in the minority. Everyone here can create contact.

Two examples to prove my point. The first example is from a previous FR of mine. I was sitting down with a women. I knew she was attracted and we were just talking. I escalated physical contact to the point where my hand was on her outer thigh. I was making circular motions against her leg. I decided to go in for the kiss and was denied. I then moved my hand to her shoulder; a lack of contact is also noticed just like moving your hand is. I traced her shoulder with my finger while saying what I was doing, I then followed the outline of collar bone to her sternum. She even told me this was sexy. Second example. Last night I went to dinner with some friends. I was introduced to a girl I had not seen before. I sat down next to her. While we are making small talk and getting to know each other her foot accidently hits my leg. I respond by taking my foot and touching her foot. She gave me a startled look which I responded to with a grin. I move my foot away and 15 seconds later her foot "accidently" rubs up against mine. I give her a knowing look, she looks into my eyes and then glances down. Attraction built, not from talking but rather from touching and keeping comfortable body language. Later that night she made sure that we would do something together tomorrow before she leaves.

If you doubt what I say about contact think about how you feel when someone touches you, especially when a woman does, even if it is by accident. I would bet it feels like how I described above. Seduce without words. It is sexier, more pleasurable, and says easily what is difficult to phrase in words.

I hope my little bit of advice is helpful to y'all, whether it be a reminder or a new concept.