This is more inner game than anything but question for the veterans and newcomers.

How much is anxiety and confidence linked together in a inverse relationship?

Right now, been anxious and worried for majority of my life. That was from me giving too much of a fuck about other people, even strangers.

Only today, I tried to just focus on me and feel this energy so to speak, that was leaking out and deflated. The moment I started focusing on me, what I wanted, what I liked and doing them without the thought of others, I feel no anxiety. All this energy that was leaking from me staying inside.. I talk confidently, in a lower octave, move slower and have no problem looking at women passing me by and even wanting to check them out or give a longer look. I don't smile as much either and feel more serious/masculine.

Now, this isn't a quick fix and can lose this feeling by a bad thought or idea since having a thought pattern for 25 plus years.

Wondering if others felt this as they focus on oneself, desires, wants, without trying to appease others or do things to make it work. I think I'm starting to understand how to build confidence and also my own self esteem but wanted to ask you guys first.