Confidence, Feeling invincible: can't choose when I want to feel that way.

bearnoise · 2013-07-21T15:57:18+00:00

That's why you got to do warm ups.

i.e., making eye contact, saying "hi", and smiling; small talk.

Dr6Shooter · 2013-07-21T17:21:33+00:00

Yep, I seem to feel this great confidence when it is of no importance to me. Ex. When I'm by myself or just sitting on the bus.

Hell, yesterday I pumped myself up while taking a shit over the toilet, but that didn't last.

disturbing_nickname · 2013-07-21T18:16:33+00:00

Everyone struggles with this. Personally I've gained a great amount of confidence from working hard both academically, at work, and when working out. I rarily have time to go out, but when I do, I'm psyched, confident, and feel like I deserve the fun the night is going to bring. And guess what, people see that, see me and the fact that I'm someone worth knowing.

A few "instinctive" tips for combating low confidence: Make yourself seem bigger, physically. For instance to stretch, or if you're standing, put your thumbs in your pockets and stick the elbows out some. I don't know why, but it works.

Make sure you're warm. You become more positive and therefore awesome this way!

And of course, blood sugar, enough sleep and a respectable lifestyle (or wear your shitty lifestyle like a badge of honor - because people will notice it either way).

2013-07-22T01:55:30+00:00

I'm a fan of what RSD says.

You can't change your emotions directly. But, you can change your actions which will change your emotions. (e.g. instead of trying to tell yourself "loosen up! relax!", just dance stupidly and you'll feel yourself loosen up automatically)

basedgodjeff · 2013-07-22T02:00:36+00:00

read this article. it discusses exactly what you talk about. you gotta tap into your confidence. do something that gives you confidence.

http://tinybuddha.com/blog/the-secret-to-instant-self-confidence/

night · 2013-07-22T04:33:27+00:00

You can't just turn on confidence or fake it. Confidence is built from reference experiences of success. So put yourself in situations and environments where you can be successful to train your confidence.

Title	Confidence, Feeling invincible: can't choose when I want to feel that way.
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Date	July 21, 2013 3:11 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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