Confidence - is it an attitude?

phasetwenty · 2012-04-28T18:14:43+00:00

You're looking at this the wrong way. You need to be more secure in what you want and who you are; be less concerned about what others find attractive.

Maybe you don't like being skinny simply because you like the idea of being strong. Set out to change that and change it. If you have no particular desire either way, then you're fine the way you are. Living up to your own standards is what you're looking for.

A lot of girls don't find skinny guys attractive? Guess what: you don't want them anyway.

You-Awesomer · 2012-04-28T20:23:48+00:00

I used to be tall, lanky, and super skinny.

I started lifting weights years ago and I can say it's the single greatest decision I've ever made. You radiate more confidence if you know you look go. Look around at the pool/beach. The guys talking to girls are usually the ones who are in shape and relaxed. Check out the FAQ of /r/fitness. Gym memberships are worthy every single penny.

*I don't know if girls dislike skinny guys per se, but I know they greatly prefer athletic, cut guys. *

Being confident is a decision you make, if you ask me. You can sulk around thining you're too skinny to get any girls, or you can embrace it and have the panache that it takes to feel good about yourself.

cold_water · 2012-04-28T21:27:54+00:00

Decide where you are going in life. Go there.

CunningTF · 2012-04-28T20:20:39+00:00

There are plenty of girls who love skinny guys.

Source: A skinny guy

Mazufigo · 2012-04-28T20:56:28+00:00

Well it's a belief. Anorexics can be 80lbs and believe they're fat. Anyone can be a decent or an amazing human being and believe otherwise for all sorts of reasons. I had this problem.

Things that HELP confidence are ways to back up that belief with evidence. Being physically active, interesting hobbies, friends, etc. Still none of these things guarantee confidence. Initially reference experiences help get you to believe it yourself (eg having a few people confirm that you can be thought of as sexy, interesting, cool, etc). To me it's about building a sense of worthiness and strength that eventually comes from within, independent from everything else.

TL;DR: You probably underestimate your own awesomeness and/or your appearance. You could look like Danny DeVito and still get laid.

promise_reprise · 2012-04-30T12:44:25+00:00

confidence = being so sure about yourself that nobody can change your frame even on at gun point.

Title	Confidence - is it an attitude?
Author	Dogfight1
Upvotes	5
Comments	8
Date	April 28, 2012 5:28 PM UTC (14 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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