Consitency in confidence

AttractandSeduce · 2016-03-21T01:43:01+00:00

Here is a good way to be 'in the zone' more often

Everyday, keep looking for ways to keep bettering yourself as a person. Small amounts everyday make a huge impact after 6 months.
Remind yourself once every morning, once every afternoon and once every night about the person you intend to be. Write it down on your phone or on a piece of paper. If you don't determine your self-image everyday, the world around you will do it for you.

Example: Today, I will be confident, charismatic, attractive, a value giver, in state and add anything else you want.

somewhatintrigued · 2016-03-21T00:17:02+00:00

I thought about this today.

Two days ago I met a girl on a birthday party. Alcohol might have been a reason but I also felt good somehow and was pretty confident around her. She's the tough type and made clear that she wasn't having it when I came on too strong. Still, attraction was there on both sides. So I asked her for a coffee date after having talked to her for 15 minutes and she agreed to meet me on the next day. We proceeded to talk another 2 hours and both went home alone. I was so happy to see her again the next day.

So yesterday we met for coffee and although we talked and laughed for almost three hours I felt pathetic for the greater part because I didn't have the energy from the day before. I felt insecure and she must have noticed. After coffee we went for a walk and I never reached for her hand and didn't go in for a kiss because I kept thinking about how everything I showed on this day was weakness.

Nonetheless she still seems interested and I will see her again in three days. I'm hoping to get behind what caused the sudden insecurity and will try to shut this down before the next date.

So what am I trying to say here? I thought about it and came to the conclusion that the root to all this insecurity bullshit lies within expectations.

At the party I didn't have any expectations and just tried to get a date for the sake of having fun. I didn't really expect to be successful but I got happily surprised. Between the party and the coffee date I then must have built up so many expectations that all of a sudden I had things to lose. I didn't want to screw this up. My first serious date after my failed relationship of 5 years. But this mindset directly transferred into weak energy and insecurity.

So my plan for our second date is to get back the "I don't care what happens next" attitude and concentrate on just being in the moment.

I'd say that to get "in the zone" you simply have to stop thinking.

SmashMax · 2016-03-21T22:01:19+00:00

We all have ups and downs. I am a complete lazy mess in winter and I wake up when it gets warmer - spring and summer.

Title	Consitency in confidence
Author	thebakerbastard
Upvotes	13
Comments	7
Date	March 20, 2016 9:57 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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